OH and myself are due to see the consultant tomorrow OH will go in and say he is doing fine and there is nothing to having dementia. I know that the consultant can tell what stage he's at by the test he will ask him to do. However he will not know that most of what my OH talks about is just not true although he really thinks it is. Also if he gets an idea in his head that he believes, such as he needs to visit someone miles away (who does not exist) he keeps on about it (he never forgets that),and becomes very aggressive verbally when I won't take him. He can't find his way around the house anymore does not know which room is which. My question is I know I should write this down for the consultant to read but how can I be sure he will not tell my husband or even talk about what I have written, as if he does my OH will know what I have done and will go mad. I know he can't help it but the only conversations we have now are about things he has in his head that are not true and how he's going to give up dementia as he never signed up for it in the first place and he wants to drive again (he really believes this).