As some of you know my mum is in hospital at the moment following a series of falls and rapid deterioration. She hasn't previously been diagnosed with dementia. Although I have had mild concerns about her cognitive functioning for a while, she is a lifelong anxiety (severe) and depression sufferer and mainly her problems revolve around that.
However following said falls, and hospital admission, her difficulties have become much more pronounced. I know that hospital is a very unreal environment which plays havoc with everyone but her decline has been sudden and shocking. She did apparently have an infection when she was admitted - her urine was clear but she had this constant catarrh and cough, and her blood tests revealed her infection markers slightly raised. An x-ray showed faint signs of a chest infection, so that was treated with antibiotics. She hasn't really picked up since.
She cannot remember very much at all about her flat where she has lived for 5 years, nothing about the carers who looked after her, nothing about her routine - she can only remember her closest friend, days of the week are all over the place and she has no sense of time (she cannot remember how long it is since I visited her last - this, however, has made a welcome change from being deluged with phone calls!)
The social worker made her second visit today - two days ago she came to see mum and she would not engage with her at all and insisted that I decide what happens next - I said I'm not able to do that, as while she is able to make her decisions she must try to do so - but the social worker came again today and it was the same story. The SW said that in the light of seeing mum her capacity is very variable and she doubts if she would really 'pass' a capacity assessment but mum managed to say that she won't be safe back in her flat on her own and understands that she needs more care, but she always phrases it that it's me who has the opinions and she is just along for the ride.
So we are moving forward with finding her a 'short stay' (up to 8 weeks) placement with a review at 3-4 weeks to see how mum is getting on. The SW is going to source a list of care homes with vacancies to send to me (as well as me doing a bit of searching) and then I will have to go and see some. I have been off work with exhaustion for three weeks so I could well do without this but if its a means to an end I will have to gird my loins and get on with it. I have a holiday booked in August, and boy will I need it!
However following said falls, and hospital admission, her difficulties have become much more pronounced. I know that hospital is a very unreal environment which plays havoc with everyone but her decline has been sudden and shocking. She did apparently have an infection when she was admitted - her urine was clear but she had this constant catarrh and cough, and her blood tests revealed her infection markers slightly raised. An x-ray showed faint signs of a chest infection, so that was treated with antibiotics. She hasn't really picked up since.
She cannot remember very much at all about her flat where she has lived for 5 years, nothing about the carers who looked after her, nothing about her routine - she can only remember her closest friend, days of the week are all over the place and she has no sense of time (she cannot remember how long it is since I visited her last - this, however, has made a welcome change from being deluged with phone calls!)
The social worker made her second visit today - two days ago she came to see mum and she would not engage with her at all and insisted that I decide what happens next - I said I'm not able to do that, as while she is able to make her decisions she must try to do so - but the social worker came again today and it was the same story. The SW said that in the light of seeing mum her capacity is very variable and she doubts if she would really 'pass' a capacity assessment but mum managed to say that she won't be safe back in her flat on her own and understands that she needs more care, but she always phrases it that it's me who has the opinions and she is just along for the ride.
So we are moving forward with finding her a 'short stay' (up to 8 weeks) placement with a review at 3-4 weeks to see how mum is getting on. The SW is going to source a list of care homes with vacancies to send to me (as well as me doing a bit of searching) and then I will have to go and see some. I have been off work with exhaustion for three weeks so I could well do without this but if its a means to an end I will have to gird my loins and get on with it. I have a holiday booked in August, and boy will I need it!
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