Mick had his first ever overnight stay in the care home last week. Previously I thought it would break my heart but I could describe my response best by saying it was like realising you only had had a pain once it had stopped.
The GP, care home manager and others think it's time for full time care. I'm still struggling with the idea.
I have debates with myself. Guilt, feelings of meanness and thoughts of Mick hating me are countered by comments I've read on TP about improved relationships when the spouse isn't doing all the caring bits. The thought of giving up on him is balanced by the sense that I can still take him out and spend time with him.
And I can argue both sides! The hurt of this dreadful illness never stops.
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The GP, care home manager and others think it's time for full time care. I'm still struggling with the idea.
I have debates with myself. Guilt, feelings of meanness and thoughts of Mick hating me are countered by comments I've read on TP about improved relationships when the spouse isn't doing all the caring bits. The thought of giving up on him is balanced by the sense that I can still take him out and spend time with him.
And I can argue both sides! The hurt of this dreadful illness never stops.
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