I am heading towards the distraught end of the spectrum.
We moved my Mum from Scotland to here in the South East earlier this year, so I could keep an eye on her, and do her shopping and other bits and pieces. It had become increasingly obvious that she wasn't able to cope on her own. For instance, a simple appointment to get her hair done would require three phone calls from me on the day to remind her, and what with her toilet problems (see a previous post of mine), frequently it would result in her not actually getting to the appointment at all.
Also, she would receive important items in the post - gas/electricity bills, Council Tax demands, Final Reminders etc ... and just leave them in a pile. Even her Christmas cards in 2015 were opened, stuffed back into the envelopes and left to pile up on her dining table. She once misplaced her passport, just as I was going to fly her South to spend some time with us; and on the last unaccompanied train journey she had, she lost her glasses.
Anyway. So, we are putting her old house on the market, and we have cleared it of all non-valuable stuff, and boxed up the stuff we/she would like to keep.
But there was a very valuable bracelet that she used to have, and we can't find it anywhere.
I have found all sorts of jewellery - some very nice, some cheap things bought on a whim; loads of watches, some of my Dad's old cufflinks ... but the bracelet is nowhere to be seen.
No point asking Mum where it is ... she thinks it's "probably in that drawer somewhere". No, it isn't. When did she last wear it? "Oh, a while ago".
I am very, very sad about losing it. It was the one thing that I knew she would pass specifically to me when she died, and I knew I would treasure it, but it seems to have gone :-(
Just venting. Sorry.
We moved my Mum from Scotland to here in the South East earlier this year, so I could keep an eye on her, and do her shopping and other bits and pieces. It had become increasingly obvious that she wasn't able to cope on her own. For instance, a simple appointment to get her hair done would require three phone calls from me on the day to remind her, and what with her toilet problems (see a previous post of mine), frequently it would result in her not actually getting to the appointment at all.
Also, she would receive important items in the post - gas/electricity bills, Council Tax demands, Final Reminders etc ... and just leave them in a pile. Even her Christmas cards in 2015 were opened, stuffed back into the envelopes and left to pile up on her dining table. She once misplaced her passport, just as I was going to fly her South to spend some time with us; and on the last unaccompanied train journey she had, she lost her glasses.
Anyway. So, we are putting her old house on the market, and we have cleared it of all non-valuable stuff, and boxed up the stuff we/she would like to keep.
But there was a very valuable bracelet that she used to have, and we can't find it anywhere.
I have found all sorts of jewellery - some very nice, some cheap things bought on a whim; loads of watches, some of my Dad's old cufflinks ... but the bracelet is nowhere to be seen.
No point asking Mum where it is ... she thinks it's "probably in that drawer somewhere". No, it isn't. When did she last wear it? "Oh, a while ago".
I am very, very sad about losing it. It was the one thing that I knew she would pass specifically to me when she died, and I knew I would treasure it, but it seems to have gone :-(
Just venting. Sorry.