Hi there,
This is my first post so please excuse my clumsy writing.
My mum was diagnosed with vascular Alzheimers a couple of years ago. Unfortunately her condition has deteriorated significantly. She lives with my father both aged 79. Married for over 50 years.
Mum was admitted to the local hospital in May 2016 with a UTI and low sodium levels. Since that time the progression of her condition both in terms of her presentation and the pressure and stress it has put on my dad is terrible.
In terms of her presentation and behaviour she has gone through the following changes in the past 12 months;
¥ Pacing
¥ Minimal concentration
¥ Short term memory and recall of information minimal
¥ Paranoia to the point of accusing dad of affairs and suspicion of anyone, including all family members, in the house
¥ Lack of insight into her condition or behaviour
¥ Verbal aggression including swearing
¥ Physical aggression, hitting dad and thumping cushions, slamming doors
¥ Poor personal hygiene, no showering for days or changing soiled clothes
To add to all of this her CPN has endeavoured to support her and my dad and advise of coping strategies and methods. Sadly, mum will not engage and although dad is aware of the benefits of this vital link he is not able to “enforce” it with mum due to her reaction and impact it would have on him if he did. As a result mum has now been discharged from the service which we fully understand.
So in summary I am desperate to find the best way to support both my mum and dad.
If I am honest I recognise my mum needs to be in a home but have no idea how to start this process is the circumstances. I imagine it would be both heartbreaking and a relief for my dad.
How can my dad be supported even if mum will not engage with Health Professionals?
Should I contact her docots or CPN
How would patient confidentiality impact this.
What is the first action I should take.
I would be so so grateful for any help or signpost of where to go to get help
Thank you so much for any help in advance
This is my first post so please excuse my clumsy writing.
My mum was diagnosed with vascular Alzheimers a couple of years ago. Unfortunately her condition has deteriorated significantly. She lives with my father both aged 79. Married for over 50 years.
Mum was admitted to the local hospital in May 2016 with a UTI and low sodium levels. Since that time the progression of her condition both in terms of her presentation and the pressure and stress it has put on my dad is terrible.
In terms of her presentation and behaviour she has gone through the following changes in the past 12 months;
¥ Pacing
¥ Minimal concentration
¥ Short term memory and recall of information minimal
¥ Paranoia to the point of accusing dad of affairs and suspicion of anyone, including all family members, in the house
¥ Lack of insight into her condition or behaviour
¥ Verbal aggression including swearing
¥ Physical aggression, hitting dad and thumping cushions, slamming doors
¥ Poor personal hygiene, no showering for days or changing soiled clothes
To add to all of this her CPN has endeavoured to support her and my dad and advise of coping strategies and methods. Sadly, mum will not engage and although dad is aware of the benefits of this vital link he is not able to “enforce” it with mum due to her reaction and impact it would have on him if he did. As a result mum has now been discharged from the service which we fully understand.
So in summary I am desperate to find the best way to support both my mum and dad.
If I am honest I recognise my mum needs to be in a home but have no idea how to start this process is the circumstances. I imagine it would be both heartbreaking and a relief for my dad.
How can my dad be supported even if mum will not engage with Health Professionals?
Should I contact her docots or CPN
How would patient confidentiality impact this.
What is the first action I should take.
I would be so so grateful for any help or signpost of where to go to get help
Thank you so much for any help in advance