Not entirely related to this forum but I know I have seen posts on here before about support or lack of it from their friends. Would appreciate some opinions on this:
A very good friend of many years and to whom I was very close decided to cut me out of her life around 5 years ago. No explanation or communication despite my increasingly needy e mails/ phone calls asking her to contact me. After realising I was getting nowhere I decided to cut my losses and leave things be. No communication for 5 years and now a mutual friend is very ill and this has brought her into my orbit again. Full of apologies, sorry for the way they behaved, asking to be forgiven and explaining why they had 'cut themselves off'. They had been through a very tough time but had been selective about who they cut themselves off from- seemingly only me as I know other mutual friends had contact with my friend throughout this time. Also being a full time carer to my Mum with AD and my severely disabled daughter both who live with me it is hardly all s***and giggles round here, as my son would say.
I told my friend how hurt I was to be dropped with no explanation and she apologised again and acknowledged she was wrong but then comes out with how much she loves us all, misses my Mum, wants to see her etc etc. I am still cross, I feel she loved my Mum so much that she decided to take a wide berth of a woman in her 80's with AD for 5 years!! I still feel so hurt by her actions and I feel that our friendship will never be the same. How have others coped or reacted when those they trusted let them down?
I just feel I will never feel the same way about her.
A very good friend of many years and to whom I was very close decided to cut me out of her life around 5 years ago. No explanation or communication despite my increasingly needy e mails/ phone calls asking her to contact me. After realising I was getting nowhere I decided to cut my losses and leave things be. No communication for 5 years and now a mutual friend is very ill and this has brought her into my orbit again. Full of apologies, sorry for the way they behaved, asking to be forgiven and explaining why they had 'cut themselves off'. They had been through a very tough time but had been selective about who they cut themselves off from- seemingly only me as I know other mutual friends had contact with my friend throughout this time. Also being a full time carer to my Mum with AD and my severely disabled daughter both who live with me it is hardly all s***and giggles round here, as my son would say.
I told my friend how hurt I was to be dropped with no explanation and she apologised again and acknowledged she was wrong but then comes out with how much she loves us all, misses my Mum, wants to see her etc etc. I am still cross, I feel she loved my Mum so much that she decided to take a wide berth of a woman in her 80's with AD for 5 years!! I still feel so hurt by her actions and I feel that our friendship will never be the same. How have others coped or reacted when those they trusted let them down?
I just feel I will never feel the same way about her.