My wife has been in care a year now and although its definitely the best place for her condition has remained stable actually improved due mainly her regular medication.
My wife is now 69 and I am 67 her toy boy, i am after the initial shock of her going into care and literally following paths of distraction to help my stress i find that i have reverted to my old self of getting older but trying to enjoy my retirement( I took esrly retirement from my job to assist my wife and get a diagnosis which took a year).
We were never social not needing others apart from a few close friends and we had our children to bring up its was enough for us both.
I like gardening and fishing walking I have now got an older dog as company and a German Shepherd ***** the only breed we ever had for 25 years then a gap of 11 years
till the new old one. My wife has been introduced and all the others on her wing at the care home have seen Lola they all love her visiting.
So I have settled slightly but now and again a sense of dread grabs me because I realise my wife isn't getting out of the care home and my life is on my own for ever!
As my wife is manageable with the proper care being available i am considering whether it is possible to be with her in a care complex or have our own small bungalow in such a complex and are they all leasehold?And costly because it would help me to know that I would have some cover health wise for the future.
Any suggestions of whom to go for advice etc?
My wife is now 69 and I am 67 her toy boy, i am after the initial shock of her going into care and literally following paths of distraction to help my stress i find that i have reverted to my old self of getting older but trying to enjoy my retirement( I took esrly retirement from my job to assist my wife and get a diagnosis which took a year).
We were never social not needing others apart from a few close friends and we had our children to bring up its was enough for us both.
I like gardening and fishing walking I have now got an older dog as company and a German Shepherd ***** the only breed we ever had for 25 years then a gap of 11 years
till the new old one. My wife has been introduced and all the others on her wing at the care home have seen Lola they all love her visiting.
So I have settled slightly but now and again a sense of dread grabs me because I realise my wife isn't getting out of the care home and my life is on my own for ever!
As my wife is manageable with the proper care being available i am considering whether it is possible to be with her in a care complex or have our own small bungalow in such a complex and are they all leasehold?And costly because it would help me to know that I would have some cover health wise for the future.
Any suggestions of whom to go for advice etc?