Mums funeral was on Wednesday 5th. The entry music was not what I requested and what Mum had specifically wanted but it was too late to say anything until after the service. Apart from that slight glitch the service was lovely. .
Amongst the mourners was my Cousin (she is my Mums sisters daughter) whom I hadnt seen for many years
After the Wake we decided to go back to the Crematorium and Cemetery to look for our Mothers' Guardian, which we didnt find. What we did find was the grave of our great grandparents laying face down in a very old part of the cemetery. I had remembered from many years ago going to the Cemetery with my Mum who was looking for her Mums grave and this was what we were looking for. We both felt what we can only describe as an intense coldness.
After further investgation it appears that this a a plot of 5. Both our great grandparents, two young babies and our Grandmother. As these plots have now become unowned, we are considering buying one plot so that we will always have a family bond, and I would like my ashes put there one day.
My Mum wants her ashes put in with my Father at a local Church Their grounds have become very modern with row upon row of stones in a very stark small field.There are no trees or greenery apart from the older part. My Dads ashes are next to a pathway with his memorial plaque on a wall set apart. I am wondering if my Mum would like her and my Dads ashes put in the Cemetery with her Mum and what will now become a family plot.
I know my Mum just wanted to be with my Dad and he had no sentimental ties to the Church and I just dont know what to do for the best.
I knows its early days and I am finally starting the grieving process, but I would love to visit both my Mum and Dad and now my old family in a lovely peaceful woodland setting.
Has anyone got any ideas on this ?.
Amongst the mourners was my Cousin (she is my Mums sisters daughter) whom I hadnt seen for many years
After the Wake we decided to go back to the Crematorium and Cemetery to look for our Mothers' Guardian, which we didnt find. What we did find was the grave of our great grandparents laying face down in a very old part of the cemetery. I had remembered from many years ago going to the Cemetery with my Mum who was looking for her Mums grave and this was what we were looking for. We both felt what we can only describe as an intense coldness.
After further investgation it appears that this a a plot of 5. Both our great grandparents, two young babies and our Grandmother. As these plots have now become unowned, we are considering buying one plot so that we will always have a family bond, and I would like my ashes put there one day.
My Mum wants her ashes put in with my Father at a local Church Their grounds have become very modern with row upon row of stones in a very stark small field.There are no trees or greenery apart from the older part. My Dads ashes are next to a pathway with his memorial plaque on a wall set apart. I am wondering if my Mum would like her and my Dads ashes put in the Cemetery with her Mum and what will now become a family plot.
I know my Mum just wanted to be with my Dad and he had no sentimental ties to the Church and I just dont know what to do for the best.
I knows its early days and I am finally starting the grieving process, but I would love to visit both my Mum and Dad and now my old family in a lovely peaceful woodland setting.
Has anyone got any ideas on this ?.