Hello, I have been a member on here for a long while as my poor Mum has Alzheimer's. It's been a very long and abusive journey so far which I have dealt with alone although Mum is in care now.
I just wondered if anyone out there has been threatened by family members for having LPA - my situation is my younger sister has threatened to report me to the Office of the Public Guardian if I don't share all the details of Mum's finances, house sale etc with her. I am the only LPA.
I have taken legal advice and offered her a solicitor's letter directly to clarify everything but she has not got back to me. She has now contacted my daughter who she wants to take out for lunch on Saturday after she visits my Mum. I have said to my daughter of course she can go as it's her choice (she's 17) but inside I feel very sad, angry and upset at my sister who presents to the outside world as lovely but underneath has threatened me and caused me anxiety. She spent no time with my Mum either, seeing her about once a year and never helped once with the illness.
Sorry to offload I just feel very sad.
Any advice or a virtual hug would be a lovely support.
Hi Sarah,
*big hugs*
Funny how the "Invisibles" won't help but also want input.
My sister (an Invisible) and I have been LPA - joint and severally- meaning we can operate independently or together.
Interestingly, she's not remotely interested in actually using it at all. That would mean doing something LOL.
I keep a spreadsheet of all outgoings on Mum's account with details of how much spent, payee, invoice number, date. It's there if my siblings want it but they never ask.
It's another task on top of day-to-day care chores and other errands, plus running my own house/life.
Effectively your sister has no right to know details of your Mum's finances. You're acting as your Mum now so it's the same as your sister demanding knowledge of your own finances. No - its private.
It has nothing to do with the Will or any beneficiaries of it. At point of death, the LPA stops and then the Will kicks in.
Let her complain to the OPG - but let her do it alone. She can waste her own time as doing so will unleash plenty of correspondence from them. For HER to deal with.
Moog x