My mother is blind and has Alzheimer's disease.
Things deteriorated rapidly at the beginning of 2016, when she suddenly lost her vision due to giant cell artiritis. It was a huge change for us all (my sister and I), as my parents (in early 80s) were living a fairly normal, independent life up until then. My mum was in and out of hospital alot of that year. She developed steroid-induced psychosis and was admitted to a mental unit for several months. We hoped for some improvement to her vision but this was only very slight, she is able to see some movements and light and some random images only.
In the years leading up to this she had been developing short-term memory problems which concerned us, but she would not acknowledge these or agree to seeing a doctor about it. Now she has full-blown Alzheimers too. She still lives at home with my dad and we have had a live-in carer for some months. She still knows who we all are and we have a relationship, she is still often very sweet and funny and loving. However, she now has patches of very difficult behaviour most days which last for a few hours. It's almost like Jekyll and Hyde behaviour, she will turn nasty, agressive and shout at the top of her voice. Even the carer struggles to cope. She is almost aways sorry afterwards. My sister and I will often phone up and try to talk her but it doesn't always help. She will be convinced something is happening or she is somewhere else, to be honest she never really knows where she is now. We are on an awful emotional rollercoaster, that is what it is like. My dad is running himself into the ground and my sister and I are trying to cope with our jobs, partners, having a life whilst going over to see her as much as possible. It is incredible that she really has 4 people devoted to her (including the carer) and yet we are struggling to cope!
I am wondering if others are having to cope with this kind of behaviour and how they do? We sincerely want to keep my mum at home as long as we can, she had a difficult childhood, she didn't really have a family life, and she has been a lovely mother. She is such a fragile, frightened, sensitive person, and very emotional. She is also physically still strong, which makes the difficult patches more challenging. She is on anti-psychotic medication and also patches for the Alzheimer's. I know that many people out there must be struggling to keep their loved ones at home and understand what we are going through.
Things deteriorated rapidly at the beginning of 2016, when she suddenly lost her vision due to giant cell artiritis. It was a huge change for us all (my sister and I), as my parents (in early 80s) were living a fairly normal, independent life up until then. My mum was in and out of hospital alot of that year. She developed steroid-induced psychosis and was admitted to a mental unit for several months. We hoped for some improvement to her vision but this was only very slight, she is able to see some movements and light and some random images only.
In the years leading up to this she had been developing short-term memory problems which concerned us, but she would not acknowledge these or agree to seeing a doctor about it. Now she has full-blown Alzheimers too. She still lives at home with my dad and we have had a live-in carer for some months. She still knows who we all are and we have a relationship, she is still often very sweet and funny and loving. However, she now has patches of very difficult behaviour most days which last for a few hours. It's almost like Jekyll and Hyde behaviour, she will turn nasty, agressive and shout at the top of her voice. Even the carer struggles to cope. She is almost aways sorry afterwards. My sister and I will often phone up and try to talk her but it doesn't always help. She will be convinced something is happening or she is somewhere else, to be honest she never really knows where she is now. We are on an awful emotional rollercoaster, that is what it is like. My dad is running himself into the ground and my sister and I are trying to cope with our jobs, partners, having a life whilst going over to see her as much as possible. It is incredible that she really has 4 people devoted to her (including the carer) and yet we are struggling to cope!
I am wondering if others are having to cope with this kind of behaviour and how they do? We sincerely want to keep my mum at home as long as we can, she had a difficult childhood, she didn't really have a family life, and she has been a lovely mother. She is such a fragile, frightened, sensitive person, and very emotional. She is also physically still strong, which makes the difficult patches more challenging. She is on anti-psychotic medication and also patches for the Alzheimer's. I know that many people out there must be struggling to keep their loved ones at home and understand what we are going through.