Hi
My husband and I are moving father tomorrow from residential care home to nursing home as he almost bedridden. He has two sons. My husband and I see him every day and are left to make all arrangements for his care. I need to say that we are honoured and happy to do this as we love him. What I can't understand is that my brother in law and his wife have no interest whatsoever is the decision making. They haven't seen him in 3 months even when he had two visits to hospital. He is 94 and going downhill. My husband phones them to update regularly but they never phone to ask. We run our own business together and my brother in law is semi retired. His wife has never worked, however their excuse is always 'we are very busy'. They only live 15 minutes drive away from care home like us. The awful thing is that I feel it would have been better if my husband was an only child as we would just get on with it, however as he has a brother and sister in law, I can't help getting angry that they don't help. My father in law is a wonderful man and I don't understand why they don't care
My husband and I are moving father tomorrow from residential care home to nursing home as he almost bedridden. He has two sons. My husband and I see him every day and are left to make all arrangements for his care. I need to say that we are honoured and happy to do this as we love him. What I can't understand is that my brother in law and his wife have no interest whatsoever is the decision making. They haven't seen him in 3 months even when he had two visits to hospital. He is 94 and going downhill. My husband phones them to update regularly but they never phone to ask. We run our own business together and my brother in law is semi retired. His wife has never worked, however their excuse is always 'we are very busy'. They only live 15 minutes drive away from care home like us. The awful thing is that I feel it would have been better if my husband was an only child as we would just get on with it, however as he has a brother and sister in law, I can't help getting angry that they don't help. My father in law is a wonderful man and I don't understand why they don't care