I've had an awful horrible day and I feel so bad and guilty. My OH has vasculer dementia for a year now, he's become very verbaly aggresive and then he will go about a week not talking to me at all. It's been 10 days of this aggresive side now and tonight he suddenly started shouting and swearing at me saying g how evil I am. Well I just snapped and started shouting g back, saying some angry things to him, we were both in an awful state. God knows what the neighbours thought He went to bed not long after, I tred to talk calmy to hI'm but just started shouting againI walked away to the next room, which I know I shold have done in the begining of this awful episode, but I just snapped. I feel so guilty of breaking the rule of walking away. Ive left him a note to say sorry and that I was in the wrong to shout at him and tried to reassure him everything would be better the next day. I find he takes things in better when reading it than if I say it and he can't shout while he's reading. But it's so very hard as someone here said, you feel like your head is going to burst or your heart is racing with the stress of it all at times. I WILL try harder though.and be a better person tomorrow, at 75 yrs old my patience is not like it used to be.,