My Mum is a very proud 89 year old going slowly downhill with Alzheimers. She is physically fit and doesn't take any medication. We had to stop the Donepezil as she couldn't remember to take it. She needs medication for a fungal infection on her face but doesn't remember to put it on. She lives on her own in a village and copes very well, walking to the local shop almost every day for a few things. I get meat and vegetables for her and she does manage to cook a joint of meat and then has it cold for however long it lasts. She always used to be very fastidious but now the housework isn't getting done even though she thinks she does it. The bath looks as though it hasn't been cleaned for months. She wears the same clothes every day and won't let me buy any new ones. I don't know when she last had any new underwear or any other clothes for that matter. She doesn't seem to be washing her hair and I don't know if she is bathing although she doesn't smell and appears clean. I don't know if she is changing her sheets and her towels are threadbear but she won't let me buy any new ones. I understand that having Alzheimers means she can't cope with anything new but I am finding caring for her so difficult and wake up every morning worrying. I live about 20 minutes drive away I go an see her once a week but she won't let me do anything in the house. Conversation dries up after half an hour as she hasn't done anything and wouldn't remember if she had. She watches TV most of the day but doesn't remember what she watched.
Does anyone have any suggestions as to how I can get Mum to accept help? I want her to stay independent and she would have a better chance of doing so if she would accept help but she just won't.
Does anyone have any suggestions as to how I can get Mum to accept help? I want her to stay independent and she would have a better chance of doing so if she would accept help but she just won't.