Hello. I find myself here as I am having a bad day! My husband was diagnosed with early onset dementia last year. His memory and personality has been changing over the past five-six years, so I am glad at least to finally have a diagnosis. My problem at the moment is trying to do everything. I have teenage children, a job, a uni degree course to finish, as well as a sick father and my husbands dementia. I usually do quite a good job of impersonating superwoman, but on bad days I feel so low, overwhelmed and lonely.
I have such a mixed bag of feelings, from disbelief, feeling depressed, anger and resentment.
The worst thing is that I do not love my husband anymore and haven't done for many years. I now feel totally trapped by his illness, as I will never be able to leave him, as he needs me too much now. I understand if you all feel that I am the biggest cow going, but I didn't leave him before, as he used to threaten to hunt me down and hurt me, if I took the children with me.
He has always been an overbearing, angry, controlling husband and I have lived in a joyless, loveless marriage for 15 years. I waited years for the children to be older, so they can choose who to be with and he can't blame me/ hurt me for taking them, it will be their choice. I also needed to finish my degree, to get a better paid job before I left him, so that I could afford to get a new place to live. Now I am truly stuck and suffering from MAJOR guilt for having all of these feelings.
Sorry for all the rambling. I don't really expect any answers or replies as it is such a terrible thing.
I have such a mixed bag of feelings, from disbelief, feeling depressed, anger and resentment.
The worst thing is that I do not love my husband anymore and haven't done for many years. I now feel totally trapped by his illness, as I will never be able to leave him, as he needs me too much now. I understand if you all feel that I am the biggest cow going, but I didn't leave him before, as he used to threaten to hunt me down and hurt me, if I took the children with me.
He has always been an overbearing, angry, controlling husband and I have lived in a joyless, loveless marriage for 15 years. I waited years for the children to be older, so they can choose who to be with and he can't blame me/ hurt me for taking them, it will be their choice. I also needed to finish my degree, to get a better paid job before I left him, so that I could afford to get a new place to live. Now I am truly stuck and suffering from MAJOR guilt for having all of these feelings.
Sorry for all the rambling. I don't really expect any answers or replies as it is such a terrible thing.