I'm here again asking for advice!
Mum has mid (I think) stage Alzheimer's and moved into an extra care flat in November. It's been a turbulent few months but she is showing signs of setting especially at night.
Not long after moving in SW advised to take mum out of many of the groups she was attending during the day. I stopped two groups and kept two on. The time she now spends in the flat is managed with the help of private carers, carers from the flats and family.
Now SW wants me to Cut back on the care hours so she spends more time alone in the flat. They think she has too many different people coming to see her each day and this is over stimulating and confusing for her. Their reasoning is that they want her to settle further and think of the flat more as her home. They suggest leaving her alone all morning with just the morning and lunch pop ins they provide.
Problem for me is that I know how upset and anxious she gets when left completely alone for long periods. I've asked them to try her with day care but they continue to refuse until she becomes more settled. My theory being if she could try day care and have more structure to her day I wouldn't need umpteen different people to keep her company.
Anyhow I've been reluctant to leave her but said I would try, but SW has now decided to appoint an advocate to mum. Don't know why, but this makes me feel uneasy as if they somehow don't trust me to be considering mums best interests. Should I be worried about the involvement of an advocate? Mums lost the ability to make rational choices about most things and I know the situation hasn't been perfect for a while but I really am trying to get the best I can for her. Why do I feel like I've done something wrong?
Anyone out there with some reassuring advice?
Mum has mid (I think) stage Alzheimer's and moved into an extra care flat in November. It's been a turbulent few months but she is showing signs of setting especially at night.
Not long after moving in SW advised to take mum out of many of the groups she was attending during the day. I stopped two groups and kept two on. The time she now spends in the flat is managed with the help of private carers, carers from the flats and family.
Now SW wants me to Cut back on the care hours so she spends more time alone in the flat. They think she has too many different people coming to see her each day and this is over stimulating and confusing for her. Their reasoning is that they want her to settle further and think of the flat more as her home. They suggest leaving her alone all morning with just the morning and lunch pop ins they provide.
Problem for me is that I know how upset and anxious she gets when left completely alone for long periods. I've asked them to try her with day care but they continue to refuse until she becomes more settled. My theory being if she could try day care and have more structure to her day I wouldn't need umpteen different people to keep her company.
Anyhow I've been reluctant to leave her but said I would try, but SW has now decided to appoint an advocate to mum. Don't know why, but this makes me feel uneasy as if they somehow don't trust me to be considering mums best interests. Should I be worried about the involvement of an advocate? Mums lost the ability to make rational choices about most things and I know the situation hasn't been perfect for a while but I really am trying to get the best I can for her. Why do I feel like I've done something wrong?
Anyone out there with some reassuring advice?