A new stage in my life...................

[Loopiloo]

Thank you Ladies. It looks as if I`m in good company.

I am another who would have done the same Sylvia and we are all doing it!

Loo xxx

 

[Grannie G]

Oh dear Loo! Fancy apologising to a photo frame.

 

[Jinx]

I always speak to Bernard when I drive past the crem, which is on my normal route out of our village, so we chat quite often! xx


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[Grannie G]

I don`t know why people say it gets easier with time. I`m finding it harder.

 

[LadyA]

I don`t know why people say it gets easier with time. I`m finding it harder.

Xx Big hugs

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[Saffie]

I don`t know why people say it gets easier with time. I`m finding it harder.

I know Sylvia. Maybe for me it's because I'm getting older and really miss his support.
I really, really missed Dave when I got home from Liverpool. Thinking of you. x

 

[Grannie G]

I`m missing the companionship, the sharing and the closeness.

I had these even while Dhiren was in residential care but don`t have them now and the gap since I last had them is becoming bigger and bigger.

 

[Cat27]

Oh Sylvia I'm so sorry you're feeling low. Sending lots of love your way xx

 

[Grannie G]

Thanks Cat. It can`t be helped. Others manage why shouldn`t I?

 

[Cat27]

Thanks Cat. It can`t be helped. Others manage why shouldn`t I?

We all struggle at times Sylvia. I always find that acknowledging how I'm feeling helps.

 

[LYN T]

I don`t know why people say it gets easier with time. I`m finding it harder.

Dear Sylvia,

You aren't alone with your feelings and I can totally identify with your post. It's the constant sadness that gets to me-and the 'if only's'........

XXX

 

[Loopiloo]

I`m missing the companionship, the sharing and the closeness.

I had these even while Dhiren was in residential care but don`t have them now and the gap since I last had them is becoming bigger and bigger.

I know what you mean about that gap becoming bigger and bigger Sylvia.

There was still the closeness in residential care. Still a relationship even although a changed one.

I am trying to come to terms with the feeling that it will always be like this. I remember a while ago reading that you have to learn to live around it - as you would make your way around a boulder in your path. But theory and reality are two different matters. The companionship and sharing just cannot be replaced.

Do we manage... well we try but there are times when, as Cat said we struggle. Sometimes we manage better than others. It is all we can do, try....

Thinking of you Sylvia

Love
Loo xxx

 

[jan.s]

I too recognise how you feel Sylvia. For me the time hasn't got easier, I still face my life without the man I love; that won't go away. I do try to get on with my life, in a way that maybe we wouldn't have done together.

I miss him so much, in so many ways.

Others manage why shouldn`t I?

I think we all try to give that impression, but inside that's not the case.

Thinking of you x

 

[Grannie G]

Thanks everyone.

Deep down I know we all feel the same and so felt safe to indulge in a little wallow.

 

[jaymor]

Sorry you are feeling so down Sylvia.

 

[jan.s]

Wallowing does us good sometimes. x

 

[Soobee]

I don't think of it as wallowing. I think of it as kind of waves on the seashore.

Sometimes the waves of grief are strong and sometimes they are weak and lap at your feet. Every so often there is a very high or spring tide and you wonder if the defences will hold.

 

[Izzy]

I don't think of it as wallowing. I think of it as kind of waves on the seashore.

Sometimes the waves of grief are strong and sometimes they are weak and lap at your feet. Every so often there is a very high or spring tide and you wonder if the defences will hold.

I really .ike that description Soobee.

 

[Jinx]

I don't think of it as wallowing. I think of it as kind of waves on the seashore.

Sometimes the waves of grief are strong and sometimes they are weak and lap at your feet. Every so often there is a very high or spring tide and you wonder if the defences will hold.

That really does describe grief so eloquently, Soobee. x


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[Grannie G]

I`ve just found this photo of Dhiren taken just a year before he died. It`s now on my phone and desktop and the first thing I see when I log on. It never fails to make me smile.