While I agree with most of what has been said here, I fear that we shouldn’t get too carried away. TP. is composed, for the most part, of those who care deeply and act accordingly. But we shouldn’t shut our eyes to the fact that this attitude is not shared by everybody, perhaps even by a majority. Over the past few years I have spent a lot of time in care homes, and I have observed that many residents get very few visitors, Some get none at all. On Christmas morning I saw one resident being visited by what I took to be her family. They all gathered round her and had photographs taken, and after about 10 minutes they all left. In two years they were the only visitors I had seen her have.
We tend to think that everybody shares our views, but the numbers seem to indicate that this may not be so. According to A.S. there are some 850,000 people in the U.K. living with dementia. We have 53,388 members of which, it is said, 916 are active. I suspect that the figure for really active members is very much lower. So we are in a minority. Why this is so is a matter for conjecture. I have a feeling that there is a wide spread fear of dementia and many try to believe that it’s not happening and turn their back on it.
So perhaps there is a small grain of truth in this article, and we shouldn’t be too dismissive. As a country we do not look after our elders well, nor do all families pull their weight. In my view a frank and open discussion of the whole problem of care of the elderly, especially those with dementia, and it’s financing will be forced upon us very soon.