Hello everyone! This is my first post but have been reading posts on this site for over 2 years! It has been a mine of information and support. My OH has vascular dementia and was diagnosed early 2014. Things were OK for a while then rapid changes which resulted in him being sectioned and hospital. After 2 months he moved to respite and then long term care. Now been in care home for 17 months. How hard and sad this dementia journey is. I am 18 years younger than my husband and been married 40 years nearly!! The decline continues and I am doing all I can in visits to bring us both some comfort. I am glad I have joined forum now as next stages going to be even harder. Thank you all and hope you are all ok.
Feeling so sad
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Hello Robin
Welcome to TP, its good you have made your first post, my husband has been in a CH for 17months, its been a hard journey, although my husband has deteriorated, it has become easier for me, as they say time helps to heal, how do your feel now?
I used to visit everyday for 5hrs, l have gradually cut down on visiting, he sleeps alot in the day now, as he is up alnight wandering.
Welcome to TP, its good you have made your first post, my husband has been in a CH for 17months, its been a hard journey, although my husband has deteriorated, it has become easier for me, as they say time helps to heal, how do your feel now?
I used to visit everyday for 5hrs, l have gradually cut down on visiting, he sleeps alot in the day now, as he is up alnight wandering.
Hi Robin. Nothing to add except hello from me too and you can be sure of understanding and support on here.
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Thank you all for your welcoming and supportive comments. I know I have come to the right place. Since my husband went into care in some ways it has become easier for me and as time has gone on I have dropped the guilt! It's just the sadness of missing him and watching this deterioration. I continue to build a new life and have good family and friends so lucky! Kind thoughts to you all.
Thinking of you
My husband was diagnosed April 2016.with vascular dementia.test done as forgot stuff and muddling up speach .not Mitch Chang only forgets days and time wore as a lot abought money for some reason.i am 15 and half years younger then him been married 37year this year he 73 I 58 .its a bad thing this dementia.isant it i too read a lot and worry I try not to but can not help it trying to think of all the good things we have done in past and hoping can as best we can till the day I can not thinking of you
My husband was diagnosed April 2016.with vascular dementia.test done as forgot stuff and muddling up speach .not Mitch Chang only forgets days and time wore as a lot abought money for some reason.i am 15 and half years younger then him been married 37year this year he 73 I 58 .its a bad thing this dementia.isant it i too read a lot and worry I try not to but can not help it trying to think of all the good things we have done in past and hoping can as best we can till the day I can not thinking of you
No offence taken....
Crazyweather....your post made me smile. You are indeed spot on and many people have told me how lucky my husband was to have a younger wife!! He was widowed early on in life and came with 2 young children. We then added one of our own. Age difference is no problem if personalities match and there is plenty of love. Just sad to watch this disease take him away more each day. Thanks for reminding me of how happy I made him.
Crazyweather....your post made me smile. You are indeed spot on and many people have told me how lucky my husband was to have a younger wife!! He was widowed early on in life and came with 2 young children. We then added one of our own. Age difference is no problem if personalities match and there is plenty of love. Just sad to watch this disease take him away more each day. Thanks for reminding me of how happy I made him.
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