I am at my wits end, I just don't know what to do. My 92 year old Mum was diagnosed with vascular dementia 2 years ago but goes for 30 mins walks each day, can walk up a hill without stopping and has conversations, laughs and is in good health. Sometimes she can get confused when she hasn't taken her supplements. She is on no drugs just levothyroxine for low thyroid which can cause memory problems. Mum has always taken supplements for her and family's health. I live 15 miles from Mum, she now has carers coming in to get her out of bed and give her breakfast and a quick call late afternoon. I give her lunch, and take her for a walk and do her washing, cleaning etc. I also have 2 teenagers to support and my husband walked out in 2013 and doesn't pay maintenance and I had a heart attack in 2014. I visit Mum 6 days a week. I don't have any possibility of getting a job, I am 59. I keep receipts for everything but I usually buy her supplements out of my own money as my brother doesn't believe in voodoo and black magic. I know when Mum doesn't have her supplements as she might be confused the next day and keeps repeating herself, other days she is fine. I pay most of the fuel myself, and other things when we go out. Mum wanted to go away to Warners last year but I was told she can't because it was not allowed. I am at my wits end, I am now 3 months behind on my mortgage, I am wiped out, I am so tired when I get home. How are we supposed to survive on nothing. The carers get paid a living wage, why can't we be paid the same. I am so infuriated by it, I could care for someone else but not my own family. How is this right? Its really getting me down and I am so worried, I put on a happy face when Mum asks if I am ok but deep down I am screaming. My brother wants me to be joint POA and says I have to keep all receipts and I can't get any pay. I have enough on my plate and my own affairs without more paperwork and worry. I can't get carers allowance, it goes towards the carers or something like that, its all confusing as I also have hypothyroid to contend with. Sometimes I think Mum's memory is better than mine! Family carers are treated badly, so much for the living wage, it doesn't apply to us! Even Mum's National Trust membership was stopped. She wanted to enjoy her last years, I take her out when I can afford it and she allowed to have a pub meal sometimes. I have to guide her towards a meal deal if we are out and sit in the car. How is this right?