My wife was diagnosed with Alzheimers last year and up until quite recently we have been managing reasonably well.
About 3 weeks ago she began to get more and more confused and believes she does not live here and that I am not her husband.
She has started believing that she is being held here against her will and keeps saying that she wants to go home.
We have lived in this house for 7 years and have been in Cornwall for over 20 years but she believes that she lives in London where she was brought up.
For the last few days she has been saying that she wants to phone her mother and her brother to come and get her. They both died over 20 years ago.
We have been to the doctors several times over the last couple of weeks and they at first suspected a urinary infection and prescribed antibiotics and changed to a different sort when they were not working.
Last Thursday she phoned 999 and told the police that she was being held here.
A very nice PC came and could see that she was totally confused and said he would make a report to the doctors and Social services.
I had a call from Social services on Friday and they were very sympathetic and said that I,as her carer needed support and that they would treat it as urgent but not until after the weekend.
It is now Saturday and I have had another dreadful day.
She is 83 and not very mobile but she keeps getting ready to go out. She want to go home, go to her mothers, go to the Police etc.
I know that you shouldn't deliberately contradict what they say but I just don't know how to handle this situation. I can't pretend people who are dead are alive.
She has become very aggressive to me and that is what I find hardest to deal with.
She says she hates me, and I believe that in her condition she genuinely does.
If she had a physical illness I would look after her until my dying day, but I just don't know how to cope with this. Sorry for the long post but I am at my wits end.
About 3 weeks ago she began to get more and more confused and believes she does not live here and that I am not her husband.
She has started believing that she is being held here against her will and keeps saying that she wants to go home.
We have lived in this house for 7 years and have been in Cornwall for over 20 years but she believes that she lives in London where she was brought up.
For the last few days she has been saying that she wants to phone her mother and her brother to come and get her. They both died over 20 years ago.
We have been to the doctors several times over the last couple of weeks and they at first suspected a urinary infection and prescribed antibiotics and changed to a different sort when they were not working.
Last Thursday she phoned 999 and told the police that she was being held here.
A very nice PC came and could see that she was totally confused and said he would make a report to the doctors and Social services.
I had a call from Social services on Friday and they were very sympathetic and said that I,as her carer needed support and that they would treat it as urgent but not until after the weekend.
It is now Saturday and I have had another dreadful day.
She is 83 and not very mobile but she keeps getting ready to go out. She want to go home, go to her mothers, go to the Police etc.
I know that you shouldn't deliberately contradict what they say but I just don't know how to handle this situation. I can't pretend people who are dead are alive.
She has become very aggressive to me and that is what I find hardest to deal with.
She says she hates me, and I believe that in her condition she genuinely does.
If she had a physical illness I would look after her until my dying day, but I just don't know how to cope with this. Sorry for the long post but I am at my wits end.