Hello.
I haven't posted for the last couple of months. My husband died last Wednesday 30 November. He had vascular dementia and was physically disabled. His dementia got much worse in August and three weeks ago he developed pneumonia. I knew when he was taken from here into hospital that I wouldn't be able to care for him at home any longer. It had all got too much, for him and for me. He was in the late medium stages about to enter the next stage, I felt. Events overtook us. He was in hospital for two and a half weeks and passed away peacefully last week. I knew it would happen, one day, even in the days leading up to his demise but the shock hit me like a truck. There was relief, that he wouldn't go on to fall apart in the final awful stages of dementia nor would he go into residential care. So relief at that but .. the grief.. I know it hasn't hit me yet and the funeral is on Thursday. How have others coped with these mixed feelings?
I haven't posted for the last couple of months. My husband died last Wednesday 30 November. He had vascular dementia and was physically disabled. His dementia got much worse in August and three weeks ago he developed pneumonia. I knew when he was taken from here into hospital that I wouldn't be able to care for him at home any longer. It had all got too much, for him and for me. He was in the late medium stages about to enter the next stage, I felt. Events overtook us. He was in hospital for two and a half weeks and passed away peacefully last week. I knew it would happen, one day, even in the days leading up to his demise but the shock hit me like a truck. There was relief, that he wouldn't go on to fall apart in the final awful stages of dementia nor would he go into residential care. So relief at that but .. the grief.. I know it hasn't hit me yet and the funeral is on Thursday. How have others coped with these mixed feelings?