I reported back last week that after weeks of dithering, I took mum from her residential care home to visit dad in his flat. Mum has dementia, dad is physically frail. I was so thrilled at how the visit went but it now seems certain that it was the wrong thing to do.
The home told me at the weekend that mum has been very agitated and tearful since the visit. This morning I had a phone call from the senior care worker to tell me that she had had to call the paramedics out to mum as she was sitting in her chair but being unresponsive. I've experienced these "turns" with mum before, although this is the first time she has had one at the home. It's really frightening - she literally plays dead.
Anyway the ambulance crew checked her over and one pinched her finger quite hard which brought a reaction. My next call from the home updated me but all I could hear was mum crying hysterically in the background. I tried to talk to her over the phone but she just sobbed and sobbed. It was so upsetting.
I went to the home this afternoon and mum had calmed down somewhat, she was still quite tearful and she just kept asking for dad. I can only get him there once a week in his wheelchair, so taking mum to visit him mid week had seemed ideal.
So it looks as if that's the end of taking mum home. To crown it all today - dads evening carer phoned to say he'd had a fall and banged his head! I feel so desperate
The home told me at the weekend that mum has been very agitated and tearful since the visit. This morning I had a phone call from the senior care worker to tell me that she had had to call the paramedics out to mum as she was sitting in her chair but being unresponsive. I've experienced these "turns" with mum before, although this is the first time she has had one at the home. It's really frightening - she literally plays dead.
Anyway the ambulance crew checked her over and one pinched her finger quite hard which brought a reaction. My next call from the home updated me but all I could hear was mum crying hysterically in the background. I tried to talk to her over the phone but she just sobbed and sobbed. It was so upsetting.
I went to the home this afternoon and mum had calmed down somewhat, she was still quite tearful and she just kept asking for dad. I can only get him there once a week in his wheelchair, so taking mum to visit him mid week had seemed ideal.
So it looks as if that's the end of taking mum home. To crown it all today - dads evening carer phoned to say he'd had a fall and banged his head! I feel so desperate
