we have been living with my fil for 3 years . I always feel inadequate and not good enough on a daily basis but this morning the nurse called for blood test and I told her I will just go up and get him she was rather snooty and said oh he is upstairs now and I said yes.she looked at me as if I had pooped in her nurses bag. the thing is like I posted before I have a 9 yo little boy who naturally wants his friends over for tea but when his grandfather would drop his pants at the drop of a hat he would also think nothing of deficating on the floor and rubing it in the furniture and curtains like he did before I don't know hat else he is capable of and its hard enough as it is.we don't just leave him up there and we bother with him all the time. I get so despondent sometimes