Lol Celia - I may give that excuse a try!
To be fair, OH stayed up all Sunday night, in prep for going on shift on Monday night, and he got through most of the washing and ironing, cleaned the kitchen and dining room and brushed, mopped and polished all downstairs - so relieved to see it all done, Monday morning - especially as he still isn't feeling 100%.
Spamar - glad you are home OK, and hope you have recovered from that long drive, hun xxxx
Slugsta, about 12 months before Mil moved in, we went through a phase of her phoning us and claiming to be 'very ill' - we would go flying down there, and she would often be quite open about the fact that she had only said that to get us to visit
"being as you haven't been near me for weeks and I could do with some company, you know!" - she would have forgotten that we had visited the day before, or that we had already arranged that we would be taking her shopping the day after. It got to the stage where we would occasionally call her bluff and tell her we couldn't get down - if she then turned nasty and abusive, accusing us of ignoring her, or avoiding her, or abandoning her - we knew it was a ruse, and we wouldn't go. Oddly, if she was guneuinely poorly, she would be upset but not nasty and that would be our cue to get down to her. But, as you say, even when you KNOW that a visit isn't really essential, the old GM still gives you a hard time
I'd love to know where all the missing items manage to vanish too, Amy ! Mil is missing so much stuff - including a lot of bra's, half a dozen pairs of trousers and some brand new nightwear
I'm assuming that the missing stuff has gone home with another patient, TBH - based on how often I find other's clothes mixed up with Mil's washing (4 pairs of knickers today, 2 tops last time!) I reckon it could well be the answer
Glad your girl enjoyed her race, JM - hoping that her enjoying it so much means she feels a lot better. I was lucky that Mil loved a lot of iron rich food - liver, red meat, cabbage, sprouts, leeks - it helped reduce the need for the tablets.
I've applied the 'work to rule' to my youngest, in a way notsogooddtr! So sick of her not bringing washing down, that I've said I will go into her room to remove towels - but will leave everything else and she can also do her own ironing. She did an amazing impression of a right 'Kevin' when I told her
But, yes - I have enough on my plate at the moment and I am feeling very overwhelmed.
IT stuff going slowly but surely - some hitches and glitches, hoping to have all ironed out by Thursday, when I have the whole day to start on the admin side. I've kept copious notes and tips very carefully, so have fingers crossed that I won't find it too hard to sort everything.
Now the bad news. We have had a massive set back. Wasn't able to speak to anyone who knew anything about the assessment or the home, at the hospital yesterday (Still full of a rotten cold so can't actually go in) so rang this morning. Got given the message that the home have said they won't be coming out at the moment - as they have no beds available
I rang the home and the manager said that a 'colleague' had assessed another potential resident before she had had chance to go and see Mil - and given the bed to this other person. She added that there was 'never any guarantee' that the bed would be Mils. I was furious, but stayed reasonably polite and said that obviously both I and my husband had misunderstood - from our conversation with her, we had both thought that subject to assessment, we had said we would definitely take that place for Mil. She apologised (fat lot of good that flipping does!) and told me that she was sorry we had 'thought' that, but that she was afraid that they didn't have a bed at the moment, and basically, as all her residents are currently in good health, she didn't know when she would have a place for Mil.
I was just lost for words. And I haven't really a clue what to do. As promised, i phoned the hospital and I'm afraid I lost it a bit - I said if it wasn't too much trouble (and yes, the sarcasm was obvious) please could someone get a message to whoever Mil's current social worker is and tell him or her that we would actually really like the support that we were told we would get from Social Workers at the discharge meeting? You know - to help us find her a suitable place that preferably didn't mean a 3 hour round trip to just visit her? If it wouldn't be too much trouble for a social worker to actually ring? And advise? Like they are paid to do?
OH doesn't yet know - as I said, he is still feeling rough, and went to bed after finishing a shift, before I rang the hospital and the home. Dreading telling him - he has said that he has felt such relief since we 'got' that bed for her - only now we haven't 'got' anything and are back to square one
Meanwhile, called briefly at the hospital after this mornings meetings, and was given one bulging full bag, and one not quite so full bag of washing - thankfully, wet stuff bagged separately within the main bag - but, as I said, containing undies that don't belong to Mil. It was a real effort not to get on the phone and scream - but if I had, I know it would have been more to do with frustration and anger at the home business, than to do with the laundry - so I've resisited temptation.
Right - lunch break over - back to emails and trying to find my way around the admin side.
Take care everyone x