Hi all,
I was wondering if anyone might be able to help a relative newbie with advice please. My Mum was diagnosed with AD in 2014, aged 60. She lives at home with my Dad and one of my younger brothers. I live in London, whilst they all live in Buckinghamshire
It's been hard to get the support that Mum needs. My Dad has found the situation very difficult to deal with (as we all have). We've rarely agreed on the support Mum needs, but Dad had seemingly started to accept that more care was needed when he gave up work a few months ago.
Unfortunately looking after Mum is proving to be too much for him full-time, and he has accepted a part time job for 3 days a week. He thinks that she can be on her own for a few hours each day, the prospect of which doesn't sit well with me at all as she is so unable to care for herself now
He says that he can't afford to not work, but how much he can afford for care isn't clear to me. It has taken a long period of pressing him to get even power of attorney sorted and to claim PIP for mum.
The local council have been poor at best and borderline negligent at worst (months of inaction and chasing before they suddenly suggested sectioning mum when they finally acted). I'm not hopeful that speaking to them will help the situation at all. At this distance they've often made things worse especially when I've not been there for visits.
I don't think Mum is ready for residential care, but the previous carers who visited for a couple of hours a day were very inconsistent - some were great but some barely seemed interested. My greatest hope is that we can find someone who can provide some activities and personal care for Mum (other things Dad hasn't come to terms with well) in their home. I don't have a clue where to find them though, as Admiral don't seem to be in the area and none suggested by the local information on the AS site are dementia specialist.
Sorry for such a long post. Does anyone have any suggestions for a) helping a carer come to terms with things b) good sources for finding better care?
I was wondering if anyone might be able to help a relative newbie with advice please. My Mum was diagnosed with AD in 2014, aged 60. She lives at home with my Dad and one of my younger brothers. I live in London, whilst they all live in Buckinghamshire
It's been hard to get the support that Mum needs. My Dad has found the situation very difficult to deal with (as we all have). We've rarely agreed on the support Mum needs, but Dad had seemingly started to accept that more care was needed when he gave up work a few months ago.
Unfortunately looking after Mum is proving to be too much for him full-time, and he has accepted a part time job for 3 days a week. He thinks that she can be on her own for a few hours each day, the prospect of which doesn't sit well with me at all as she is so unable to care for herself now
He says that he can't afford to not work, but how much he can afford for care isn't clear to me. It has taken a long period of pressing him to get even power of attorney sorted and to claim PIP for mum.
The local council have been poor at best and borderline negligent at worst (months of inaction and chasing before they suddenly suggested sectioning mum when they finally acted). I'm not hopeful that speaking to them will help the situation at all. At this distance they've often made things worse especially when I've not been there for visits.
I don't think Mum is ready for residential care, but the previous carers who visited for a couple of hours a day were very inconsistent - some were great but some barely seemed interested. My greatest hope is that we can find someone who can provide some activities and personal care for Mum (other things Dad hasn't come to terms with well) in their home. I don't have a clue where to find them though, as Admiral don't seem to be in the area and none suggested by the local information on the AS site are dementia specialist.
Sorry for such a long post. Does anyone have any suggestions for a) helping a carer come to terms with things b) good sources for finding better care?