I have been caring for my mum for just over 2 years now. She was living in her own flat and at the time was very frail, then she had a bad fall and and lay on the floor from 10pm until 8am until she phoned us, it was then apparent she couldn't look after herself. She came to live with my husband and myself, we are both retired. She has now been diagnosed with dementia. Over the past couple of months I have noticed a big decline in her mental ability. The biggest problem, among others, is her hygiene, she is not getting washed or changing her clothes anymore. She has had assessments from social services, doctors etc. but they say unless she accepts help there is nothing they can do. She will not accept my help at all, and hasn't had her hair washed for over 2 months now. She says she can manage herself. I have requested a shower chair for her and I know I will battle with her getting into the shower. She also has heart disease, COPD, doesn't eat, and hasn't been outside for nearly 10 years, so she is completely housebound, so in fact she is just existing. I would love to hear from other members who are having similar problems, and have you overcome them