Hi all
I was just wondering what kind of records we need to start keeping we have only just started helping mum sort out her money today, we took mum for her money and then to the shops (that was an interesting experience over 4 hours and only 2 shops) my wife has kept all the receipts but I am wondering if we should keep some sort of log of the strange things mum keeps saying or doing ? Never having anything to do with someone with dementia before we don't know what to do legally and my wife is very worried that someone might think we are taking advantage of mum
Unfortunately we have not really been in touch with mum for a few years but we were told that mum was having trouble and that was enough for my wife to ignore the squabble and start going round again and then we hear that her purse stolen on a regular occurrence & someone was taking money out of her bank for the past 2 years (since mum had a bloke move in with her) mum was never without a bit of spare cash before but now she is overdrawn at the bank (somehow someone got her to get a £250 overdraft why I can't understand as she only pays around £40 a month out and should never have needed that much) & in the last 7 or 8 months mum and her fella have taken out around £1200 in loans from some loan company I have never heard of before they were for between £100 to. £300 each time & mum is still paying 1 off (strangely enough all the loans taken out by mums fella got paid off quick the last straw was £300 being taken out of mums bank account (this was all going on while my wife's sister was supposed to be checking up on mum and would possibly still be going on but my wife wouldn't let it go on) sorry for rambling on but it just pops out anyway the fella is gone and my wife's sister just keeps saying that mum just kept saying he was good to her and now he's gone it's all over and done with but mum keeps asking where he is because she's going to give him a good rollicking & she knows people who will sort him out (it's a shame she can't always remember what he was called)
It's so annoying to think that people who prey upon others always seem to get away with it we tried talking to the police about it and all we got was "if mum gave him the cards and the pin numbers with him living with her there is nothing they can do" why is it that the law always seems to be in favour of the criminal not the victim !!!!!
Sorry I am off again I better stop
I was just wondering what kind of records we need to start keeping we have only just started helping mum sort out her money today, we took mum for her money and then to the shops (that was an interesting experience over 4 hours and only 2 shops) my wife has kept all the receipts but I am wondering if we should keep some sort of log of the strange things mum keeps saying or doing ? Never having anything to do with someone with dementia before we don't know what to do legally and my wife is very worried that someone might think we are taking advantage of mum
Unfortunately we have not really been in touch with mum for a few years but we were told that mum was having trouble and that was enough for my wife to ignore the squabble and start going round again and then we hear that her purse stolen on a regular occurrence & someone was taking money out of her bank for the past 2 years (since mum had a bloke move in with her) mum was never without a bit of spare cash before but now she is overdrawn at the bank (somehow someone got her to get a £250 overdraft why I can't understand as she only pays around £40 a month out and should never have needed that much) & in the last 7 or 8 months mum and her fella have taken out around £1200 in loans from some loan company I have never heard of before they were for between £100 to. £300 each time & mum is still paying 1 off (strangely enough all the loans taken out by mums fella got paid off quick the last straw was £300 being taken out of mums bank account (this was all going on while my wife's sister was supposed to be checking up on mum and would possibly still be going on but my wife wouldn't let it go on) sorry for rambling on but it just pops out anyway the fella is gone and my wife's sister just keeps saying that mum just kept saying he was good to her and now he's gone it's all over and done with but mum keeps asking where he is because she's going to give him a good rollicking & she knows people who will sort him out (it's a shame she can't always remember what he was called)
It's so annoying to think that people who prey upon others always seem to get away with it we tried talking to the police about it and all we got was "if mum gave him the cards and the pin numbers with him living with her there is nothing they can do" why is it that the law always seems to be in favour of the criminal not the victim !!!!!
Sorry I am off again I better stop