Hello Everyone,
Amy, I am so sorry to hear that Fil is so poorly
I hope if it was an infection, that they have been able to do something to tackle it and ease his discomfort. And I hope that you and your OH, and the rest of the family are OK, including your Mil's brother, and that you are all lookinh after each other, as well as Fil - I can't imagine how much stress you must all be going through and how difficult it must be xxxx
Red, so glad to hear that you feel you are at least 'sort of mending' and totally understand the need to step back a bit and move, on, hun - though I will miss your regular prescence on here xxxxxx
Spamar, I agree with Red - after everything you went through, your calmness and acceptence and ability to move on, maybe slowly and not without issues, but still accepting the new reality and just 'getting on' with life is inspirational. There is life after caring, even when you also have grief to deal with - and it helps to know and see that others, like you, can adjust and deal and go on xxxxx
JM, I struggle to keep on top of things - and I don't work (yet!) as you do, I only have one youngester at home and her 'activities' do not take up the ammount of time and committment that your son and daughters' do. Give yourself a break, hun. Let the neighbours help by digging up the brambles, if they don't mind, say thank you and give 'em a box of choccy's or bottle of wine, and don't beat yourself up xxxx
Slugsta, hope the assessment this afternoon goes well for you and your Mum, and some help can be put in place quickly - visits to oversee the meds and the evening meal would be a great start, and take some of the worry off you xxx
Has anyone heard from Grace? Hope she is OK .
Had an extremely busy couple of days whilst my sister was over. So good to see her in 'the flesh' and lovely to meet her fiance for the first time
I didn't attempt to visit Mil whilst they were here (they went home yesterday
), and OH hasn't got there either since last Wednesday, partly due to the new job and trying to adjust to working nights, and then due to him picking up some sort of 'flu bug', (which he held at bay at first, but it then knocked him off his feet when he came home from work on Saturday morning) so he hasn't been able to see her either. We are usually there 5 or 6 days a week, so its not like us and I have phoned and explained why we haven't been in. I'm going in tonight, with a load of clean clothes. At the back of my mind, its been a bit of a struggle - part of me almost defiantly thinking that there is nothing wrong with me taking a few days from visiting when my sister is over, a good bit of me feeling guilty because it feels like I've neglected Mil, and me not going because I'm busy enjoying myself is not any sort of an excuse really (unlike OH, who can't get there because he is guenuinely ill). OH has put his sensible head on and reminded me that we have said that once we find a permemnent placement for her and get her settled, we will only visit 2 or 3 times a week, so this is no different - but it feels 'odd' and as though its not fair on her. And yep, I know that her memeory is so bad now that she actually hasn't a clue when we last visited and will probably forget I've been within 5 minutes of me leaving tonight, anyway - still feel like I've neglected her!
There is no news on a placement yet - its odd, I would have thought that there would be a flurry of activity once the decision was made, but nope - I've asked a couple of times, and just been told that the CPN has let our preferred home (DC) know that we would like a place there for Mil (which I had also already done) - but that seems to be it. No idea what we are supposed to be doing - are we supposed to be going out and looking for somewhere else, or is it OK that we would prefer to wait for a place at DC? . Is there any of the usual 'paperwork' or financial sorting to be done? (have informed carers allowance and all that, obviously, but should there be something else?). If she is funded under this 117, does she still have to contribute from her state and private pension? Should we be doing 'something' about sorting it out now, if she is supposed to contribute? I keep waiting for a phone call, asking us to attend a 'meeting' or whatever - but nothing so far. Its odd and I keep worrying that at some point, someone is going to ask have we done this or that, and its going to cause problems because at the moment, we just don't know if there is a 'this or that', that we should be sorting!
Hoping to hear today if I'm being called to interview for any of the jobs I've applied for - a bit worried because my mate had looked over my applications/CV (she is a TA herself) and told me that she thinks that I may not get called as on paper, I looked to be over-qualified - not sure what I can do about that? Because without the degree, I doubt if what I have by way of 'educational' certificates and so on, would be enough, so it isn't just a case of leaving that bit off
So, job chasing, usual pottering round house, and a load of editing to tackle if I get the time - both sis and her OH are keen amateur photographers (lol, at times this last few days I felt like I was leading a very intense photo-workshop, with the questions the two of 'em piled on me!) and we took our camera's to the zoo, to the airfield and for a walk down by the River Dee at night, as well as fitting in a load of 'shopping expeditions' (my sisters' idea of heaven, my idea of hell!) and visits to other friends while they were here, so the camera's were very well used. I've also got to pick up some stuff for Dau's next DofE camp (Thursday) and I am hoping to hear from the B.O.G from the school, who so far haven't even acknowledged the stuff I sent in last week - 7 actual school days left before the hols, which will of course make a handy excuse not to deal with it till September, I would imagine!
Hope everyone is OK, and has a good day today xxxx