I havent been on this forum for a while - I registered over 3 years ago, worried about my mum. My worst fears were confirmed - sadly my mother has Alzheimers - now much more advanced.
I just wonder if other people have had similar experience - my mum and I, before she started to change had a great mother / daughter relationship - not perfect but certainly loving. Sadly her condition seems to have slowly all but destroyed our relationship - my mother has become paranoid, aggressive and withdrawn. When she is angry, I'm not sure I recognise her at all.
I'm heartbroken. I just wonder how other people have managed in this situation? I want to be there for her but seem to make her more defensive - she vents her anger at both me and my Dad - but mainly me. I try to remind myself that she cant help it but its so hard not to have a small part of you hurting Then I feel ashamed - its clearly so much worse for her. She knows 'something is wrong' but forgets and kicks back against any gentle explanation She genuinely thinks we are all out to get her and has accused me of all sorts.
I just wonder if other people have had similar experience - my mum and I, before she started to change had a great mother / daughter relationship - not perfect but certainly loving. Sadly her condition seems to have slowly all but destroyed our relationship - my mother has become paranoid, aggressive and withdrawn. When she is angry, I'm not sure I recognise her at all.
I'm heartbroken. I just wonder how other people have managed in this situation? I want to be there for her but seem to make her more defensive - she vents her anger at both me and my Dad - but mainly me. I try to remind myself that she cant help it but its so hard not to have a small part of you hurting Then I feel ashamed - its clearly so much worse for her. She knows 'something is wrong' but forgets and kicks back against any gentle explanation She genuinely thinks we are all out to get her and has accused me of all sorts.