Morning all,
JM, I really hope that the work situation can be resolved soon - I think when you have two stressful situations going on, as you have with your Mum and work, one just tends to magnify the other and make it worse all round
Thanks for the info Dotty - I got 15 minutes into the video yesterday, then had a constant stream of phone calls and interruptions, so I'm now going to wait till I have the house to myself, so I can watch it in peace and hopefully take it in - JM, to go back to your point, our CPN said once Mil was under a section 3, then all care costs would be met. However, that aspect has not been mentioned by the consultants/ward managers - instead they have been at pains to point out that the section 3 will be lifted when she leaves the ward, and that it can only run for 6 months maximum anyway - so I am assuming that even if she was transferred to a CH from hospital, that she would still have to pay - unless, of course, I can get CHC for her.
Good luck with 'tidying up' for your Mil, Grace. When Mil thinks she is a cleaner, or works in a shop or factory, its easy enough to see that soem delusions come from her actual past. But some of her delusions, I still can't work out where they have sprung from - unless its from books/TV programmes that she is remembering. Although she has never worked with kids, over the last week or so, she keeps returning to the theme that she is in a job that involves children - she has talked about how she is teaching them songs for a play, running the tuck shop for them, helping a teacher keep them in a classroom, how its her job to see that they 'go to bed and stay in bed' at night - I honestly can't think where this curerent theme has come from at all. Nor can I work out where all the 'accidents and injuries' that she frequently says have happened originate from - OH is as certain as can be that she was never in a car crash, knocked down by a lorry - and she has never driven, so the tale of how she coulden't see properly in the fog so ran her car into a wall - well, we just haven't a clue where thats come from.
Slugsta, I went to see Mil last night, but no chance to grab staff to ask about the meds - I'll try again today.
Visiting last night, she seemed extremely 'switched on' - briefly talking about 'going home' she actually gave the right address, our address, which is really unusual. She also identified her Grandchildren by the right name, and even recalled our dogs names, with very little prompting. In between, however, it was all very much fantasy Island. A complicated account of how she passed her driving test, completely ficticious tales to explain her collection of bruises, telling su that she had been out walking for miles 'on that road that goes to London'. Slightly concerned that she kept 'pinching' at her arms, saying it felt like something was 'crawling' on them Her lower gnashers were missing, and in response to me asking, she simply hitched up her top and retrieved them from her bra - much to OH's surprised! We were there for about 40 minutes, and for the last 10, she started to get clearly worked up, with a determination that she was 'coming home' with us, NOW. Both OH and I had to get quite firm when she was adamant that she was 'just coming out the door with you' - that fixed expression very evident on her face and her frustration starting to build. We were glad to make a hasty escape.
Another meeting set for 8th June, after them saying that she will be there for '2 more weeks at least', not sure if it will be about discharge or not.
Hope you all have a good day xxxx
JM, I really hope that the work situation can be resolved soon - I think when you have two stressful situations going on, as you have with your Mum and work, one just tends to magnify the other and make it worse all round
Thanks for the info Dotty - I got 15 minutes into the video yesterday, then had a constant stream of phone calls and interruptions, so I'm now going to wait till I have the house to myself, so I can watch it in peace and hopefully take it in - JM, to go back to your point, our CPN said once Mil was under a section 3, then all care costs would be met. However, that aspect has not been mentioned by the consultants/ward managers - instead they have been at pains to point out that the section 3 will be lifted when she leaves the ward, and that it can only run for 6 months maximum anyway - so I am assuming that even if she was transferred to a CH from hospital, that she would still have to pay - unless, of course, I can get CHC for her.
Good luck with 'tidying up' for your Mil, Grace. When Mil thinks she is a cleaner, or works in a shop or factory, its easy enough to see that soem delusions come from her actual past. But some of her delusions, I still can't work out where they have sprung from - unless its from books/TV programmes that she is remembering. Although she has never worked with kids, over the last week or so, she keeps returning to the theme that she is in a job that involves children - she has talked about how she is teaching them songs for a play, running the tuck shop for them, helping a teacher keep them in a classroom, how its her job to see that they 'go to bed and stay in bed' at night - I honestly can't think where this curerent theme has come from at all. Nor can I work out where all the 'accidents and injuries' that she frequently says have happened originate from - OH is as certain as can be that she was never in a car crash, knocked down by a lorry - and she has never driven, so the tale of how she coulden't see properly in the fog so ran her car into a wall - well, we just haven't a clue where thats come from.
Slugsta, I went to see Mil last night, but no chance to grab staff to ask about the meds - I'll try again today.
Visiting last night, she seemed extremely 'switched on' - briefly talking about 'going home' she actually gave the right address, our address, which is really unusual. She also identified her Grandchildren by the right name, and even recalled our dogs names, with very little prompting. In between, however, it was all very much fantasy Island. A complicated account of how she passed her driving test, completely ficticious tales to explain her collection of bruises, telling su that she had been out walking for miles 'on that road that goes to London'. Slightly concerned that she kept 'pinching' at her arms, saying it felt like something was 'crawling' on them Her lower gnashers were missing, and in response to me asking, she simply hitched up her top and retrieved them from her bra - much to OH's surprised! We were there for about 40 minutes, and for the last 10, she started to get clearly worked up, with a determination that she was 'coming home' with us, NOW. Both OH and I had to get quite firm when she was adamant that she was 'just coming out the door with you' - that fixed expression very evident on her face and her frustration starting to build. We were glad to make a hasty escape.
Another meeting set for 8th June, after them saying that she will be there for '2 more weeks at least', not sure if it will be about discharge or not.
Hope you all have a good day xxxx