If there is an event on during the day, for example "singing for the brain" at 1:30pm, my mum will be ready to go from early morning and believes that she needs to leave right then. She gets highly anxious and stressed out, and is upset and frustrated when my dad tells her that it's not time to go. Has anyone got any suggestions on how to help with this?
It sounds like a small thing, but is causing my mum to be tearful and upset for most of the day. Any suggestions appreciated! Xx
It depends... does she actually know the event is on for that day, or has she been told the day before or that morning by your Dad?
If she doesn't actually know its on, then I wouldn't tell her to get ready until much closer to the time.
If she does still remember when something is scheduled for that day but it's just a lack of knowing the time, and when to get ready, then would a night/day clock with the day and time ( depends if she understands digital or analogue better) work?
Up until a few months back, my Mum had an obsession with what was happening every day. She had a white board on her fridge with what was happening, and she would be up from 4am checking her board.
When she started losing concept of what day/time it was I bought her an electronic clock with the day/morning/afternoon/night. Worked for a few days and then she became anxious over how long it was taking to change from one day to the next, so we had take it away.
Then she would argue witn Dad over what was written on her board, and what day it was, and how she had been to whatever activity the day before.
So now we write nothing on the board and tell her that morning.
Its a guessing game as to what works and what doesn't and a lot of trial and error.
