physical abuse towards carer

[halo1508]

My father is my mother's carer, she has started to hit him and if he tries to stop her by holding her hands, she is spitting in his face. Does anyone have any advice on dealing with this kind of situation? Thanks

 

[jasmineflower]

Hi Halo
I have learnt from TP that When it gets to this stage you really need outside help.

Can you or your dad arrange a GP appointment to explain what is going on and that your dad is "at risk"? There may be some medication changes that could help calm your mother down.

One thing that you can do now is to ensure your dad has a safe room to go to with a lock on the door and a phone, either in the room or on his person at all times so that he can get help. People with dementia can be unexpectedly strong when they are aggressive so he must be able to get out of harms way.

I know my MIL's aggression eventually passed, but not for quite a while. I expect more experienced TP'ers will have some more constructive advice for you

 

[fizzie]

hi there
welcome to TP

This leaflet on compassionate communication is very useful - I found it very hard to master but I stuck it on my fridge to remind me every day and it changed things in our house dramatically

Do have a look at it
http://www.ocagingservicescollabora...te-Communication-with-the-Memory-Impaired.pdf

Sounds as though they need some help
It might be worth a call to Admiral Nursing Direct on 0800 888 6678 FREE They are specialist dementia nurses and very good and will be able to give you some expert advice

This is such a cruel disease for everyone involved. keep posting there is loads of support on here x