My mum has lived with me and my partner for 4 1/2 years now. I moved her 125 miles away. Mum is almost 87. We have good days and bad days. On the good days, I can cope. On the bad days (when we either have to talk a load of rubbish or she imagines things), I feel depressed and stressed out. I take her out socially, but she never remembers going. She thinks that she doesn't go anywhere! I also employ a carer to take her out twice a week (on a Tuesday to an over 50s afternoon and on a Friday, shopping for an hour). I am almost 60 myself and very aware that this could go on indefinitely. I am also aware that dementia might get to me.... who knows if and when? Lots of friends (and even strangers) say that it is time to look after myself and think about putting mum into residential care. However, this makes me feel so guilty and I know that she wouldn't want to go. The question is, how long do we carry on putting our lives on hold whilst life passes us by? Do I owe her another 10 years or so of my life, by which time I will be almost 70.... Apart from the dementia, she is very physically fit. The doctor checks her bloods, blood pressure, weight etc every 6 months and all are perfect. I now feel (sadly), that moving her in, was the worst decision that I have ever made because I feel so trapped.. Is anyone else in a similar situation? Any advice greatly appreciated.... I am an only child and have no family support whatsoever....