WHEN ITS ALL OVER
WHAT NEXT ?
WHERE NEXT ?
This will be a very hard post for some, but I am hoping, although hard to read, it helps.
On the day that a loved one is finally released from the awful clutches of dementia, what next for the loved one, carer left behind? The VOID must be HUGE, not only in their hearts and minds but socially as well. I have heard, in absolute HORROR, that some memory cafes do not allow those left behind to carry on attending the groups that have helped them so much in the past. Isn’t this the most important time when loved ones, carers etc need help, support, friendship and reassurance??
They have worked so very hard all those years, not only being a carer, a wife/husband / mother / father. daughter / son , but also nurse, social worker, heath worker, caregiver and much more, and then suddenly, all that is is over, all those hours of loving care and making memories, GONE, not forgotten but gone none the less, it’s a void that needs to be filled in so many ways.
Too many times we forget about those left behind whom have had every minute of their day taken up by the most selfless act of all, giving up their lives to look after others. This is exactly the time we should all rally round and offer to help. All those hours given are now free, free to do what they like, but its never as easy as that. This is when the Guilt Monster as we call it is at its most menacing, and will try and convince the person its wrong to just sit back and try to start all over again, well its NOT!! And with the help of friends, relatives and Social groups who understand, it will help them so much to get back into a routine and hopefully start to live their life again.
Here at the GLOBAL Purple Angel DEMENTIA AWARENESS CAMPAIGN we welcome anybody who has memory problems, or anybody who is worried about their or a friend / family member’s memory. You don’t have to have a diagnosis of dementia to come to us, that’s why we call the “Memory Cafes” and not dementia cafés, we are here to help no matter what and we will support you long after a loved one has passed.
To all CARER`S/ CAREGIVERS
WE WILL NEVER FORGET YOU + THANK YOU FOR ALL YOU DO
Norrms, Diagnosed aged 50, eight years ago and still FIGHTING IT xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
WHAT NEXT ?
WHERE NEXT ?
This will be a very hard post for some, but I am hoping, although hard to read, it helps.
On the day that a loved one is finally released from the awful clutches of dementia, what next for the loved one, carer left behind? The VOID must be HUGE, not only in their hearts and minds but socially as well. I have heard, in absolute HORROR, that some memory cafes do not allow those left behind to carry on attending the groups that have helped them so much in the past. Isn’t this the most important time when loved ones, carers etc need help, support, friendship and reassurance??
They have worked so very hard all those years, not only being a carer, a wife/husband / mother / father. daughter / son , but also nurse, social worker, heath worker, caregiver and much more, and then suddenly, all that is is over, all those hours of loving care and making memories, GONE, not forgotten but gone none the less, it’s a void that needs to be filled in so many ways.
Too many times we forget about those left behind whom have had every minute of their day taken up by the most selfless act of all, giving up their lives to look after others. This is exactly the time we should all rally round and offer to help. All those hours given are now free, free to do what they like, but its never as easy as that. This is when the Guilt Monster as we call it is at its most menacing, and will try and convince the person its wrong to just sit back and try to start all over again, well its NOT!! And with the help of friends, relatives and Social groups who understand, it will help them so much to get back into a routine and hopefully start to live their life again.
Here at the GLOBAL Purple Angel DEMENTIA AWARENESS CAMPAIGN we welcome anybody who has memory problems, or anybody who is worried about their or a friend / family member’s memory. You don’t have to have a diagnosis of dementia to come to us, that’s why we call the “Memory Cafes” and not dementia cafés, we are here to help no matter what and we will support you long after a loved one has passed.
To all CARER`S/ CAREGIVERS
WE WILL NEVER FORGET YOU + THANK YOU FOR ALL YOU DO
Norrms, Diagnosed aged 50, eight years ago and still FIGHTING IT xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx