So, invisible BIL came last night, first time since MIL died on Friday. To be fair he was coming on Saturday but I made him turn round as Millie went into labour.
Because my Daughter (not Himself's child) was here I sat in the kitchen with her and Himself and BIL sat in the front room talking.
I didn't sleep much last night, between being on puppy duty and my mind whirling around.
BIL did nothing for his Mum in the past six and a half years but now appears to have taken charge and is organising things as he wants them because he wants his daughters to attend a conventional funeral to say goodbye to their Nanny. Flipping heck, they've had nothing to do with her for goodness sake.
I am angry as I wanted for people to only have to travel once to bury her ashes with her husbands in the wonderful woodland burial park near Ongar because this was what was important to her, she wasn't religious and didn't want a traditional funeral. Most of the people attending will be my family and friends who have had more to do with her than any of them have.
He also wants a solicitor to sort out the probate, what a waste of money as it's a very simple estate and Himself and I have time now we could do it.
BIL hasn't and never will acknowledge what I have done for his Mum and although I am angry about that I know that I did what I could for her whilst she was alive and I could have done no more. She had the very best care that anyone could have and I feel very blessed that we were able to look after her until the last.
Having said all the above and feeling "complete" with the living part of MIL's life I am struggling with not having a say now. Feels really hard having been left to do everything for years.
Because my Daughter (not Himself's child) was here I sat in the kitchen with her and Himself and BIL sat in the front room talking.
I didn't sleep much last night, between being on puppy duty and my mind whirling around.
BIL did nothing for his Mum in the past six and a half years but now appears to have taken charge and is organising things as he wants them because he wants his daughters to attend a conventional funeral to say goodbye to their Nanny. Flipping heck, they've had nothing to do with her for goodness sake.
I am angry as I wanted for people to only have to travel once to bury her ashes with her husbands in the wonderful woodland burial park near Ongar because this was what was important to her, she wasn't religious and didn't want a traditional funeral. Most of the people attending will be my family and friends who have had more to do with her than any of them have.
He also wants a solicitor to sort out the probate, what a waste of money as it's a very simple estate and Himself and I have time now we could do it.
BIL hasn't and never will acknowledge what I have done for his Mum and although I am angry about that I know that I did what I could for her whilst she was alive and I could have done no more. She had the very best care that anyone could have and I feel very blessed that we were able to look after her until the last.
Having said all the above and feeling "complete" with the living part of MIL's life I am struggling with not having a say now. Feels really hard having been left to do everything for years.
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