Interesting little quote there he seems fine to other people who meet him sociallyLike Pollyanna and Canary my husband has FTD and we had gone abroad several times in the few years before he was diagnosed.
Shortly after diagnosis I took him to Lanzarote for a week as my daughter and her family were staying in the same resort I had some backup if anything went wrong!
When we arrived it was pouring rain. He, like Canary's husband was catatonic with stress and insisted on climbing the very steep wet steps to our apartment immediately although he has mobility problems. Only for the fact that my son in law was there to help he could easily have fallen.
I tried to make the most of things but he was unsafe to leave alone as the resort had a lot of steps and he was in a state of high anxiety. Towards the end my daughter said to me' this hasn't been much of a holiday for you Mam' and I realized that for a few years previously all our holidays had been like that. Like Pollyanna's husband mine had also spent the time either sleeping in the room or eating or sitting like a zombie flicking the tv channels. Only difference was that then I didn't realize he was ill and could go for a walk or lie in the sun while he slept.
This is a man who still 'seems fine' to people who meet him socially.
On our last holiday ever two years ago I decided (on one of his good days) to book a week in Portugal. Disaster - he ended up in hospital and on an IV drip. I couldn't leave him for a minute as he was so stressed he would pull out his IV drip or fall getting out of bed. I had to get him a private room and get a bed for myself put outside his so that he would not be able to get out during the night without waking me. He had a bell but no way would he remember to call a nurse if he needed one.
Fortunately his insurance covered his hospital stay but it was a very stressful time and now he refuses to go abroad ever again and to be honest I don't want to take him.
If you do go I would advise booking airport assistance - there is a very steep marble staircase in Faro airport which my husband, with a wheelie case in each hand, insisted on plunging down rather than taking the lift. Reason goes completely and stress makes it worse.
We had assistance on the return journey and it was brilliant!
If you do go i hope it goes well for you all.
I think that is what makes things harder for me because I sometimes doubt myself did that happen etc although I know it did we see the full 24/7