Advice for the last days please
- Thread starter Quilty
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So sorry to be reading all,of this. I sat every night with my dad for two weeks listening to his favourite music and gently talking to him telling him repeatedly we all loved him and what a wonderful job he had done as a husband and dad, grandad etc. I did this over and over again and I like to think I helped to prepare him for his ending which was very peaceful. Like you I just knew it was imminent. I hope you find peace and I wish you well xxx
Thinking of you, Quilty, and of your mother. My mother asked about her sister (who died last year and I didn't have the heart to tell her) on the Thursday before she died on a Sunday. She said she needed the phone (which she wasn't able to use in years) because she had to call her sister.
At the very end, my mother couldn't swallow, so I used crushed ice chips on her tongue (she was holding her mouth open at all times, despite prompting to close it). She liked that. I put lip softening cream on her dried lips. It did give her comfort.
My heart goes out to you, Quilty. And to your mother.
Mum slipped away this morning in her sleep
I got the call to say my Mum had passed in her sleep. She went very peacefully and quietly and gave us no warning. I just cant believe yet that she is gone and I dont know what I am going to do with myself. Mum has consumed every spare moment and spare thought for 5 years.
To all my TP friends I big thanks. You have been true friends when friends who understood what I was going through could not be found.
So, my long walk as a carer is over. We walked to the light together my Mum and I and we have said goodbye. I now walk back alone but I can stop and look around me now. I do not regret making this journey.
As my darling Dad taught me - I did my best, and it was enough. She is now at peace, no longer weak, confused and afraid for the future.
I got the call to say my Mum had passed in her sleep. She went very peacefully and quietly and gave us no warning. I just cant believe yet that she is gone and I dont know what I am going to do with myself. Mum has consumed every spare moment and spare thought for 5 years.
To all my TP friends I big thanks. You have been true friends when friends who understood what I was going through could not be found.
So, my long walk as a carer is over. We walked to the light together my Mum and I and we have said goodbye. I now walk back alone but I can stop and look around me now. I do not regret making this journey.
As my darling Dad taught me - I did my best, and it was enough. She is now at peace, no longer weak, confused and afraid for the future.
Sorry for your pain Quilty all you can do is what you have been doing all this time taking good care of her. Keep strong and God Bless you both xx
Heartfelt condolences Quilty, you have put it beautifully, you walked all the way to the end with Mum, held her hand and gave love and comfort and no one can do or say more than that.
This is indeed a strange time, more unreal than real for a while I think. So pleased to hear that Mum slipped away so peacefully, at the end that is all we can wish for.
Take things slowly now, there is no right or wrong just be however you need to be.
Hugs Quilty xxx
This is indeed a strange time, more unreal than real for a while I think. So pleased to hear that Mum slipped away so peacefully, at the end that is all we can wish for.
Take things slowly now, there is no right or wrong just be however you need to be.
Hugs Quilty xxx
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so sorry to read this Quilty. You have been such a wonderful daughter and I am sure your mum was glad you were there helping her every step of the way.
bless you, sending hugs and thinking of you.
wishing you the strength to get you through the next steps. All your friends here at TP will be thinking of you.
Take care, look after yourself xxx
You did a wonderful thing, walking your Mum home and letting her go on ahead. This was as it should be, peaceful.
Now take your time to re-discover the world around you.
With sympathy for your loss.....Maureen.x.x.
Now take your time to re-discover the world around you.
With sympathy for your loss.....Maureen.x.x.
