Hi all
eating/not eating can be such a worry - and sometimes the carers worry carries over to the PWD, I found at times with dad it was best to not make a fuss and just leave things around, offer a meal but not push it, and be prepared to reheat when he was interested
just some ideas - sorry to make a list
- fortified drinks, milkshakes, smoothies, drinking yogurts, soups in a mug not bowl
- Horlicks, drinking chocolate, ovaltine
- porridge, redibrek, mushy Weetabix, semolina with jam/coulis, rice pudding, jelly, trifle, mousse, custard
- muesli bars and such left out to just take at will
- fruit cut up into manageable portions
- 'children's food' eg mashed banana sandwiches, all cut up small
- baked beans on toast and those types of 'old fashioned' tea-time meals
- mashed potato, mashed anything
- cream cakes, any cakes, biscuits, anything sweet
- very small portions on small plate - maybe even on a coloured plate, not plain white
- something small but often rather than a 'proper' meal
Hi Middle child - such a concern for you - it may be that your mum is forgetting what to do with cutlery etc and is covering by having your dad eat so she can copy him - is she OK if someone else eats with her? - maybe your dad could do some pretending, as with a child, so he has a small portion on his also small plate, cut up into small pieces so he can seem to eat a little though actually he's only acting it out - would your mum notice?
so hard for you if he won't accept home carers - any chance of telling him that they come free for everyone where the couple are both over a certain age or both have .... (something he might accept) - or to help you out as you feel unwell (my dad would do things for me when he wouldn't accept it for himself alone)
best wishes