I have had a phone call about a visit for a carers assessment and to talk to my husband about any support required. This was a memory clinic referral. As my husband does not know there is anything wrong with him and does not like strangers in the house - we get enough imaginary ones as it is! - I have declined this visit. He is well into the middle stage of this condition. Did I make the right decision? What is the point of an assessment? Yes some days are very difficult and I am so tired but I dont feel like I can share this with Social Services. My latest plan - not really sure if it is realistic - is to look after my husband at home with help for as long as I am able to so that I can look back and know that I did the best I could for as long as I could. We have been together for 44 years now - I was 18 when we met - and I just cant let go of the responsibility to care for him whilst he still has some recognition of me.