So on Friday a lady from a nice residential care home I have visited is coming to assess my mother. If my mother is deemed suitable then she can have a trial stay in this home. As discussed on other threads, with her rapidly deteriorating vascular dementia, it is felt to be the best thing for her, and this is a lovely care home.
But.. she has no idea I am planning this and how do I break the visit of this lady to my mum? I do go away abroad for work at times (last week in Japan for example) and my mum has a vague idea of this, so I thought:
I'm going away for work to the USA soon and so a lady's coming to see you tomorrow -with me - to see what sort of food you like and what things you like to do, because she says you could stay at the place she works at while I am away, to make sure you're eating properly and looked after at night.
And then what do I reply when my mum says "But I am perfectly OK staying here with the girls who come to visit me"
?
Of course, my mum might just look vaguely as she often does but I know she understands about care homes because every time I take her out, we drive past a care home that is currently being built and she informs me there's now way she would want to go into one of those places - they're all gaga
But.. she has no idea I am planning this and how do I break the visit of this lady to my mum? I do go away abroad for work at times (last week in Japan for example) and my mum has a vague idea of this, so I thought:
I'm going away for work to the USA soon and so a lady's coming to see you tomorrow -with me - to see what sort of food you like and what things you like to do, because she says you could stay at the place she works at while I am away, to make sure you're eating properly and looked after at night.
And then what do I reply when my mum says "But I am perfectly OK staying here with the girls who come to visit me"
?
Of course, my mum might just look vaguely as she often does but I know she understands about care homes because every time I take her out, we drive past a care home that is currently being built and she informs me there's now way she would want to go into one of those places - they're all gaga