My. Mum who aged 90 who lives with me has both alzheimers and vascular dementia.
She had a brain scan 3 yrs ago and there was shrinkage , damage in her frontal temporal area.
Although diagnosed with dementia 7 yrs ago, not been right for 10 yrs can still be grateful for care recieved from me and my daughter.
She has been put of hospital after 13 wk spell.... After late night fall, no damage but BP was low, kept getting UTIs and i foolishly asked for care calling each day.
Kept getting v young inexperienced girls, many different faces and mum is so complex that after showing each of them what to do etc it was more bother than worth.
Final straw was last wk when one carer brough commode into living room ? Laziness not walking with mum and when she became v. Agitated , throwing items off table inc zimmer...... She started saying for ****s sake and other cursing. I didnt witness it but my daughter did. So have made xomplint and no care attending.
Mum is so difficult and it is always her terms.
Was having lots of problems wirh hitting out at staff, nurses , when in hospital, making some of them cry.... Arms bleeeding with scratching, digging nails in and punching...
FTD is off the scale , compared to other dementias .
Psychiatriast in hospital didnt recommend sedatin as would impair cognition and increase risk of falls.
Most of time mum is pleasant , its re personal care , using toilet, pulling up,underwear and sitting on toilet... FIGHTING WITH YOU IF YOU TRY TO CORRECT ..... GUIDE ...
NOT wanting to get up, from chair to go to bed ......
I now put mum to bed from 8 pm , depending when she wants toilet as commode is by bed , otherwise have had 3.30 am conversations , getting nowhere.
Keith lemon could have another script writer asmum prone to making sexual comments in public and laughing excessively.
Sw is trying to obtain CHC re specialist carers and more respite .
Another reason care didnt work was mum isnt flexible and does things when she wants to... Most visits , esp you ger girls , just wrote refused assistance in care file .....
I have had to phone ambulance twice when mum refused to go to bed and carers couldnt persuade her in 30 mins slot..... OT wont give me a hoist for emergency use .....
Sorry , not much advise but understand stress you must be under.
I think its like living with domestic violence and sometimes blame myself when mum kicks off as not being one step ahead. Its not all bad but at the moment you are in the Zone its hell and such a relief when you come out of it and mum becomes pleasant.
By sharing info we can tackle dementia in a positve way , big hugs xx