My dear mum 86 has been in Nursing Home for nearly a year now, dad and I stay with her every day for 6 hours. We see the good days, the bad days , the struggle with feeding her , the confusion everything. Mum still knows me - or at least I think she does .
The roller coaster is running again and I am not sure if this is nearing the end this time.
For the last year mum has been prone to UTI's which have caused Delerium each time. She is on a low daily dose of antibiotic indefinatly, on the understanding that obviously there will come a time when she will become immune . The Dr backs this up each UTI outbreak with a stronger antibiotic for 7 days when needed.
She has fazes of passing out , for low blood pressure and two weeks ago she passed out and fell on her face breaking her nose, getting a black eye and a very swollen upper lip.
I went with her to hospital where she was x rayed and CAT scanned, all very traumatic for her but confirmed nothing was broken, so back to N H.
Since then Mum has eaten very little (she was already loosing weight) she is drinking albeit it very slowly , and is sleeping a lot. She also has osteoarthritis in her back so is also on morohine for pain.
She has about 5 min lucid moments , every hour and I sit with her listening to music hall songs, which she mimes all the correct words to , so she is still alert at times.
I am seeing the Dr again with her tomorrow to get blood test results, but I feel so confused and scared at not knowing what is wrong. Is it shock, is it a UTI, is it kindney failure , or is this the end. Should I force food.
I know her quality of life is very poor, but I don't want to leave any stone unturned , and yet on the on the other hand I don't want to prolong her agony.
Sorry for the rambling but I feel so confused.
I have no brothers or sisters and I am trying to be brave for my Dad who has been married to Mum for62 years and Is already distraught seeing all this . I don't know what to do anymore . This is mums 12 th year of Alzheimers and it's wicked.
I want this to end yet feel guilty - why why
The roller coaster is running again and I am not sure if this is nearing the end this time.
For the last year mum has been prone to UTI's which have caused Delerium each time. She is on a low daily dose of antibiotic indefinatly, on the understanding that obviously there will come a time when she will become immune . The Dr backs this up each UTI outbreak with a stronger antibiotic for 7 days when needed.
She has fazes of passing out , for low blood pressure and two weeks ago she passed out and fell on her face breaking her nose, getting a black eye and a very swollen upper lip.
I went with her to hospital where she was x rayed and CAT scanned, all very traumatic for her but confirmed nothing was broken, so back to N H.
Since then Mum has eaten very little (she was already loosing weight) she is drinking albeit it very slowly , and is sleeping a lot. She also has osteoarthritis in her back so is also on morohine for pain.
She has about 5 min lucid moments , every hour and I sit with her listening to music hall songs, which she mimes all the correct words to , so she is still alert at times.
I am seeing the Dr again with her tomorrow to get blood test results, but I feel so confused and scared at not knowing what is wrong. Is it shock, is it a UTI, is it kindney failure , or is this the end. Should I force food.
I know her quality of life is very poor, but I don't want to leave any stone unturned , and yet on the on the other hand I don't want to prolong her agony.
Sorry for the rambling but I feel so confused.
I have no brothers or sisters and I am trying to be brave for my Dad who has been married to Mum for62 years and Is already distraught seeing all this . I don't know what to do anymore . This is mums 12 th year of Alzheimers and it's wicked.
I want this to end yet feel guilty - why why