Long overdue I feel , but have told my sister that we need a family meeting soon with our Alzheimer's Key Worker, about Mum who has declined since before Christmas, cognitively, ever increasing short term and now long term and start of incontinence.
Unfortunately Dad with MCI adds to the issues.
2.5yrs later and he still doesn't understand, cope with, or even remembers strategies that I have told him to do or say. Suggestions are met with "Yes I know what you mean", but in reality he does and says the opposite. Compassionate communication is out the window, and know now it is partly Dads MCI and partly his personality.
Some of my added battles are between Mum & Dad themself and I no longer feel like a daughter but their parent, carer and referee.
I work part time ( already reduced 4 days to 3 for Mum) a husband with health issues and two teenagers. I am worn out physically, mentally and emotionally, and its just not a weeks respite I'm needing.
Taking Dad to see his doctor the other day for a checkup, I talked to him about how it must be stressful 24/7 with Mum. He won't admit to it. In fact he makes jokes about it... but thats his style, using humour to cover up uncomfortable situations he doesn't want to talk about.
But I have seem him before with tears and frustration in his eyes.
His checkup ended up with having an ECG as his pulse was irregular. Ended up being OK ... but who knows if its due to stress?! He's already on blood pressure tablets since Mums AD.
My sister said what good would a family meeting do, that Mum was not ready for Care and you only go into Care when you are a danger to yourself.
Hmmmmm she has seen and heard many examples over the past two years how Mum is a danger to herself already.
All that remains is for her to go wandering and get lost, or have a major fall or get hit by a car because she has no traffic sense.
I don't want to see any of these scenarios happen but then with POA for Health & Welfare its me ultimately who makes the decision to place Mum into care.
Mum GP has already said Mum is incapable of making her own decisions, we just need to register a medical certificate with the Lawyer.
If you have had a Family Meeting before with SS or other, any points I should consider or raise?
Unfortunately Dad with MCI adds to the issues.
2.5yrs later and he still doesn't understand, cope with, or even remembers strategies that I have told him to do or say. Suggestions are met with "Yes I know what you mean", but in reality he does and says the opposite. Compassionate communication is out the window, and know now it is partly Dads MCI and partly his personality.
Some of my added battles are between Mum & Dad themself and I no longer feel like a daughter but their parent, carer and referee.
I work part time ( already reduced 4 days to 3 for Mum) a husband with health issues and two teenagers. I am worn out physically, mentally and emotionally, and its just not a weeks respite I'm needing.
Taking Dad to see his doctor the other day for a checkup, I talked to him about how it must be stressful 24/7 with Mum. He won't admit to it. In fact he makes jokes about it... but thats his style, using humour to cover up uncomfortable situations he doesn't want to talk about.
But I have seem him before with tears and frustration in his eyes.
His checkup ended up with having an ECG as his pulse was irregular. Ended up being OK ... but who knows if its due to stress?! He's already on blood pressure tablets since Mums AD.
My sister said what good would a family meeting do, that Mum was not ready for Care and you only go into Care when you are a danger to yourself.
Hmmmmm she has seen and heard many examples over the past two years how Mum is a danger to herself already.
All that remains is for her to go wandering and get lost, or have a major fall or get hit by a car because she has no traffic sense.
I don't want to see any of these scenarios happen but then with POA for Health & Welfare its me ultimately who makes the decision to place Mum into care.
Mum GP has already said Mum is incapable of making her own decisions, we just need to register a medical certificate with the Lawyer.
If you have had a Family Meeting before with SS or other, any points I should consider or raise?
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