My father has dementia. I live in my parents' house. I do not get on with my mother, who is very difficult, and my brother is a black cloud, who is verbally abusive to me when he does speak to me, and who is capable of physical violence.
I receive Carers Allowance for my father. My mother is constantly threatening to make sure it is taken from me. She says I do not spend 35 hours a week by his side. She does not acknowledge any contribution that I make, such as:
Taking my father - and frequently her - to medical appointments.
Doing the shopping.
Doing the washing and ironing,
Looking after my brother's dog when he leaves him here - several times a week and often overnight.
Dealing with my father's financial adviser.
Helping my father log on to his computer.
Dealing with things such as 'phone calls to BT, insurers, day to day admin.
Collecting medication for both parents.
Organising my father's medication - he can no longer count out the tablets.
Helping with housework.
Taking my father - and frequently her - anywhere he wants to go.
The umpteenth episode with my brother occurred yesterday - verbal abuse because a door had not been closed properly - and he refused to come to the house today, for which I was blamed. It is literally the three of them against me and there is no reasoning with my parents as they treat my brother like a God. If he attacked me, they would back him up.
I just feel that I have come to the end of my tether. I am hitting my head against a brick wall. I have to get out of this situation, but I am in such a state that I do not know who to contact.
Any advice would be much appreciated. Thank you.
I receive Carers Allowance for my father. My mother is constantly threatening to make sure it is taken from me. She says I do not spend 35 hours a week by his side. She does not acknowledge any contribution that I make, such as:
Taking my father - and frequently her - to medical appointments.
Doing the shopping.
Doing the washing and ironing,
Looking after my brother's dog when he leaves him here - several times a week and often overnight.
Dealing with my father's financial adviser.
Helping my father log on to his computer.
Dealing with things such as 'phone calls to BT, insurers, day to day admin.
Collecting medication for both parents.
Organising my father's medication - he can no longer count out the tablets.
Helping with housework.
Taking my father - and frequently her - anywhere he wants to go.
The umpteenth episode with my brother occurred yesterday - verbal abuse because a door had not been closed properly - and he refused to come to the house today, for which I was blamed. It is literally the three of them against me and there is no reasoning with my parents as they treat my brother like a God. If he attacked me, they would back him up.
I just feel that I have come to the end of my tether. I am hitting my head against a brick wall. I have to get out of this situation, but I am in such a state that I do not know who to contact.
Any advice would be much appreciated. Thank you.