She can't 'be there' for me anymore and saying 'thank you for all the things you do for me' just feels false because she isn't capable of doing things for me anymore. I don't know what to say...is it bad to feel like this????
Hi melly
I know what you mean , No not at all is it bad to feel like that , you being realistic and truthful .
you could just write on the card .
Thank - you for being my mother I love you .
your still young 23 you must miss your mother dearly how she was before she got dementia and all the future time you could of had with her if she had not got dementia
for me I am to old to long in the tooth for all the sentimental stuff . I loved it when they where all younger and use to bring me breakfast in bed , 4 of them arriving at bedroom door with tray in they hand , then my son behind them with a flower in his hand . may be painful for you now to look back on those pass childhood mother day memory , but may be in the future when your ready they give you confront
I have a daughter of your age well year older 24 and I would rather she help me all years around rather then just One day a year showing her appreciation of me being her mother, taking me out for a meal , mind you I am not complaining .
but then it make my other to daughter feel guilty that they not doing anything . my younger daughter 21 wanted to take me to the cinema, while my middle daughter just give me a card .
so now middle daughter 22 is going to look after mum . while younger daughter older daughter are taking me out for the meal .
my son painted the whole house white last week for me , so it won't enter his head that just because they made this day mother day he has to get me a card to show me his love , because we both know we love each other all the time , just like you and your mother do .
... No idea why I feel the need to go there ...
You must just miss her , like I still miss my father xx