Hi all,
This is my first post as I am a newbie here but really have no clue where to turn at the mo. Ok long story:
I believe my Mum who is 67 has the early stages of dementia - her Mum had Alzheimers and I feel like I am repeating the whole process my Mum went through with her Mum.
Lots of pointers that make me think this is what she has; the repeating over and over, forgetting things that she has been told 10 minutes before, leaving supermarket without paying for shopping (only happened once so far), not knowing how to drive to places that are 10 minutes from home - even though she has driven there in the past. Never knows whether I am at work or not even though I text her telling her - making up stories about my Dad and visa versa saying things about me to my Dad that are not true - this is a huge thing for me as my Mum and I are best friends, tell each other everything and now its like she is saying nasty things behind my back that arn't true and that it tough to hear. As an example, she met me for lunch last week as I was working all day - went home and told my Dad "why would I want to meet her for lunch whats the point in that - she kept me waiting an hour in the freezing cold" none of this was true and its hard seeing her change like this.
I wrote my concerns to her GP and she never goes to the Doctor for anything, but she had hurt her leg and went..so I took my opportunity to let her GP know my worry. I went with her - but she told me your not coming in with me, the doctor will think I'm going gaga!! This is her favourite saying at the moment - people think I'm going gaga..The doctor telephoned me after her appointment and said he could not discuss her appointment with me unless she agree's and I know she would go mad if I let her know I was worried about her memory. All he could say was that he had 'done things from his end' and that I MUST get her to talk to me. She had a letter from the gp in her bag..but scurried upstair and hid her bag..denying she had a letter/test form from him. A couple of weeks later a doctor from the memory clinic rang and spoke to me and said they had booked her an appojntment but she rang and cancelled saying there was nothing wrong with her - I asked the doctor if her GP had concerns and he said yes - she failed the memory test and they wanted a brain scan..NO chance!
She has now been called in for an asthma check - and they have said she needs a blood test - their way of getting her to do this without knowing the reasons I think. I saw the form and it is the normal B12, Thyroid etc which I think they request when diagnosing dememtia...I am still waiting for her to go...but will keep on at best I can without annoying her! There are so many things I could write but I think I have waffled enough..where do I go from here, I already feel like I am loosing her a little and she is getting closer to my Dad - even though they had a loveless marriage she is turning to him more than me? She went to the dentist last week for a scale and polish and came out saying she had a filling - thinks I live somewhere completely different to where I do...thinks we had a conservatory and we never had, lots of little things...but she has days at a time where she seems fine and remembers most things.
I so hope you have managed to read this far and does anyone think this could be dementia or maybe something else..
This is my first post as I am a newbie here but really have no clue where to turn at the mo. Ok long story:
I believe my Mum who is 67 has the early stages of dementia - her Mum had Alzheimers and I feel like I am repeating the whole process my Mum went through with her Mum.
Lots of pointers that make me think this is what she has; the repeating over and over, forgetting things that she has been told 10 minutes before, leaving supermarket without paying for shopping (only happened once so far), not knowing how to drive to places that are 10 minutes from home - even though she has driven there in the past. Never knows whether I am at work or not even though I text her telling her - making up stories about my Dad and visa versa saying things about me to my Dad that are not true - this is a huge thing for me as my Mum and I are best friends, tell each other everything and now its like she is saying nasty things behind my back that arn't true and that it tough to hear. As an example, she met me for lunch last week as I was working all day - went home and told my Dad "why would I want to meet her for lunch whats the point in that - she kept me waiting an hour in the freezing cold" none of this was true and its hard seeing her change like this.
I wrote my concerns to her GP and she never goes to the Doctor for anything, but she had hurt her leg and went..so I took my opportunity to let her GP know my worry. I went with her - but she told me your not coming in with me, the doctor will think I'm going gaga!! This is her favourite saying at the moment - people think I'm going gaga..The doctor telephoned me after her appointment and said he could not discuss her appointment with me unless she agree's and I know she would go mad if I let her know I was worried about her memory. All he could say was that he had 'done things from his end' and that I MUST get her to talk to me. She had a letter from the gp in her bag..but scurried upstair and hid her bag..denying she had a letter/test form from him. A couple of weeks later a doctor from the memory clinic rang and spoke to me and said they had booked her an appojntment but she rang and cancelled saying there was nothing wrong with her - I asked the doctor if her GP had concerns and he said yes - she failed the memory test and they wanted a brain scan..NO chance!
She has now been called in for an asthma check - and they have said she needs a blood test - their way of getting her to do this without knowing the reasons I think. I saw the form and it is the normal B12, Thyroid etc which I think they request when diagnosing dememtia...I am still waiting for her to go...but will keep on at best I can without annoying her! There are so many things I could write but I think I have waffled enough..where do I go from here, I already feel like I am loosing her a little and she is getting closer to my Dad - even though they had a loveless marriage she is turning to him more than me? She went to the dentist last week for a scale and polish and came out saying she had a filling - thinks I live somewhere completely different to where I do...thinks we had a conservatory and we never had, lots of little things...but she has days at a time where she seems fine and remembers most things.
I so hope you have managed to read this far and does anyone think this could be dementia or maybe something else..