Yesterday at 7.20am I got a phone call from mum saying she wasn't going into respite care that had been arranged, initially two weeks with a view to longer/perm! after a lot of very careful easy going conversation she agreed to go in, as I've said earlier we have had a terrible seven days but we now realise it was all a cry for help. So Mum has been in respite for 36 hours and the improvement is amazing, she appears to have no real cares in the world, she's having lovely 3 course meals each meal, showered, someone popping in regularly, shower, cup of tea etc etc, let's hope this continues and mum decides this is where she should be!