No, she can't be held accountable; it's just a symptom of her illness, and not a particularly unusual one, which is probably why the care home came across as unconcerned.
But you need to take a break from the stress her calls are inflicting on you, poster.
You can't stop her phoning you, but you are not under any obligation to pick up or return her calls. The CH will inform you if there's any genuine problem.
ok thanks. Does anyone know or have heard of a book called Ugly? It is about a black woman who constantly told her child she was ugly. She left home and ceased contact with her mum who told her she was ugly but because she was told so often she ended up believing it and even when her mother died, she still thought she was ugly and had plastic surgery. This is a true story.
What I am trying to say is that even if we have a break, the damage may already have been done and you end up being brainwashed.
ok thanks. Does anyone know or have heard of a book called Ugly? It is about a black woman who constantly told her child she was ugly. She left home and ceased contact with her mum who told her she was ugly but because she was told so often she ended up believing it and even when her mother died, she still thought she was ugly and had plastic surgery. This is a true story.
What I am trying to say is that even if we have a break, the damage may already have been done and you end up being brainwashed.
I don't think this is the right place for this discussion.
I really think you need to get some counselling. You need to be able to talk this through properly & address all the issues.
http://www.counselling-directory.org.uk/abuse.html
Yes I will get some counselling thanks
Sorry to hear that poster.2 nights ago we were watching east enders MBH said that a woman was wearing a saints rugby club scarf .I said she was not.Can a person with dementia be held accountable for hurling emotional abuse at another person?
This is happening to me and I am usually a strong person but it is beginning to affect me emotionally because it is happening quite often.
Counselling is too expensive. I will have to leave it. I don't know where to go or who to turn to anymore. My mother has won. She has worn me into the ground. I am an emotional mess. I will have to cut all contact with her for my own sanity. She is no good for me whatsoever.
thanks and bye