Hello, this is my first time posting but I am at a loss. My dear dad is 71 and has been diagnose for about 3-4 years. Just 16 months ago he walked me down the aisle and "gave me away" on my wedding day, it was such a special moment. From about last xmas his anger started getting much worse, we were (my hubby and I) up and down to mum and dads several times a week. Yes my dad had started taking his anger out on my mum. At first it was not too bad but things escalated over the course of about 10 mths and he was trying to strangle her, punched her in the face and even had a go at my younger sister in front of my 8 year old niece. Mum ( we all) managed best we could but at the beginning of August this year he was sectioned and has been in a mental health unit since. It's been awful he has been moved back and forth 3 times, one time because he punched an elderly lady so hard, the family complained insisting he was moved and ended up miles away from home. All this time apart from thr last 2 weeks he has been uncontrollably violent. His Dr has told us he is so severely brain damaged they are now giving him palliative care as he is end of life . It's horrendous, he doesn't eat properly, just has VERY small amounts per day which is liquidised, prob about a couple of tea spoons of that, the only thing he has really is ice cream. He doesn't talk,recognition of any of us has gone, is doubly incontinent, and sleeps all the time, impossible to wake him.
Every time I see him it reduces me to tears and I pray that it won't last for long (then I feel bad for wishing him dead) the torment keeps me from sleeping and worst of all my poor mum is going through a living hell. She's been married to dad for over 47 years and this vile disease that has taken our amazing, kind, loving and gentle dad just seems to go on forever. My sister's, like me, are in pieces and its all so emotionally draining.
Has anyone else experienced something similar and know how long this can go on for?
Thanks feeling desperate and tired x x
Every time I see him it reduces me to tears and I pray that it won't last for long (then I feel bad for wishing him dead) the torment keeps me from sleeping and worst of all my poor mum is going through a living hell. She's been married to dad for over 47 years and this vile disease that has taken our amazing, kind, loving and gentle dad just seems to go on forever. My sister's, like me, are in pieces and its all so emotionally draining.
Has anyone else experienced something similar and know how long this can go on for?
Thanks feeling desperate and tired x x