It has been decided this week that mum has to go into a nursing home. She is a 77 year old insulin diabetic with mixed dementia (late stage vascular/Alzheimer's). We've found a lovely home, more like a country house which has an excellent QC report and scored 10 in reviews. The general managers are lovely and I think mum will have the best care she could hope for.
However.... She will hate it. She's been in hospital for 6 weeks with an ulcerated foot brought on by her diabetes and just wants to go home. She was in assisted living but unable to look after herself anymore. The biggest problem is that she has a cat (Charlie) who is the love of her life, but the home won't allow her to take him. The manager went to assess mum in hospital and told her that we wanted her to go into the home for respite (as we didn't want to tell her she was moving there) mum understood this but started to get very upset about Charlie. The manager called me to say she would ask the home owner if they would allow mum to have him but sadly they said no. Bearing this in mind, we've tried to find another home who can accommodate a cat but without success.
I feel awful about putting her in a home let alone without Charlie and struggling to deal with it. But there is no other way. I felt the manager was so kind and thoughtful in dealing with this that I know it's the right place for her. But I'm so worried and upset how all this is going to affect mum.
I hate this awful disease. I'm crying now as I'm writing this.
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However.... She will hate it. She's been in hospital for 6 weeks with an ulcerated foot brought on by her diabetes and just wants to go home. She was in assisted living but unable to look after herself anymore. The biggest problem is that she has a cat (Charlie) who is the love of her life, but the home won't allow her to take him. The manager went to assess mum in hospital and told her that we wanted her to go into the home for respite (as we didn't want to tell her she was moving there) mum understood this but started to get very upset about Charlie. The manager called me to say she would ask the home owner if they would allow mum to have him but sadly they said no. Bearing this in mind, we've tried to find another home who can accommodate a cat but without success.
I feel awful about putting her in a home let alone without Charlie and struggling to deal with it. But there is no other way. I felt the manager was so kind and thoughtful in dealing with this that I know it's the right place for her. But I'm so worried and upset how all this is going to affect mum.
I hate this awful disease. I'm crying now as I'm writing this.
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